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writes:I just found out that my fiance is a compulsive gambler! We have lived together for over a year. It was not until we linked our bank accounts that I found out where all the money was going -- online poker! He knows how much he has hurt me and promised not to do it again... It happened again. This time he took money from my school savings. He admits to having a problem and has an appointment with a professional counsellor. Also, we went together to the first GA meeting yesterday. From the little research i have done, it looks as if compulsive gamblers will always have the urge and potential for relapse. I do not trust him AT ALL! I don't have any more patience or tears left. It has only been one month am I giving up too soon? I am afraid to tell my family and friends because i am so ashamed. I just dont know how it will ever work, all we do is fight about the situation he has put us in. We have already booked our reception hall and invited our attendants to be in our wedding. I am so embarassed. What should I do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): your fiance is addicted to gambling as it seems, it's great that he is going to conseling to settle his issue. there are some that think they could strike it rich while winning in gambling probably like your fiance, but HELLO.... the chances and the probability are unlikely, it's all base on LUCK, some are just LUCKY! he has to STOP, OTHERWISE there will be very deep consequences, and he has to understand that, it's okay to gamble for fun not as a long term activity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Would you rather call off the wedding now, or do litigation in years to come, trying to decide who get custody of the kids. You should not be embarrassed; this is something between you and your finance. Your family and friends don't have to come home to the financial trouble, and anxiety everyday. You do. Try to keep all that in mind. It is just the two of you now, but in years to come, there will be children involved. Do you really want to explain to them why they don't have lunch money? I will be praying for you, I know this is a tough decision. I pray the Lords will, will be done.
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