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writes:Hi guys, so I'm 19 and have been working in a solicitors for a year and a half. About a year ago a new solicitor started, 19 and single.I've been in love with him since he started. He is one of the most amazing people I have ever had the priviledge to know. I just can't work out if he really does have feelings for me or not...any advice?Firstly, he likes to take me out to lunch and sits with me during lunch in the office. I always catch him looking at me and smiling when he thinks im not looking. He's flirts quite a loot, and I know that he really cares about me, he's always trying to look after me. But I also know he's not doing this because he sees me as a daughter or anything, he's really not like that lol. He's leaving soon because he can't get on with the boss, so if anything was to happen, it wouldn't interfere with our work or anything. But I also know that we would really be judged, personally I do not have a problem with age - it really doesnt matter to me, and he said the same (in a casual convo we were having in the office)Guys I would REALLY appreciate any input big or small!! Luv yousxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Don't draw your boundaries. This is a border less world. Explore your new surroundings and just let nature takes its course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): Personally, I think at your age being 19, a 20 year age gap is too much....I think you are infatuated but if you were to start dating him the differences in your interests and points of view would be quite a lot...He sounds like he likes you, but I am not sure if he sees you as someone he could date...I also think if he were interested in you romantically, don't get mad, that would show his immaturity and perhaps he is not capable of sustaining a relationship with someone more on his maturity level.
Now if you were older, it might not make quite as much difference, but 19 is very young, and you are very impressionable. I would be careful here, get to know him better before you lose your head over him, you could end up getting used and hurt.
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reader, casper07  +, writes (2 March 2008):
I think if neither of you do not have a problem with your age difference than why not pursue him? It's probably even better that he is leaving your work place because if it just so happens not to work out than you wont have to see him on a regular basis. He obviously sounds like he has some type of interest in you but may be scared to be completely honest with you about his own feelings since you are so far apart in age and is not too sure how you may feel about the situation. I think you should go for it and try to take your relationship to the next level and if it doesnt work out than at least you know you tried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry guys - a wee typo! He's not 19...he's 39! But a young 39!
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