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I just cant let go, why?

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Question - (11 July 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 11 July 2009)
A female Ireland age , *londer writes:

married but to be honest i dont love my husband but afraid to let go why i dont know. I know he no longer loves me either but i think we are just together for the sake of it . its like a comfort thing for both of us. but i just cant keep on like this. its getting me down and all i do is comfort eat. please help me

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A female reader, sammi star United Kingdom +, writes (11 July 2009):

sammi star agony auntIt's completely natural to feel that you can't let go. Being a couple has become a habit, it's your life and, chances are, how you define yourself. I was with my previous partner for seven years and I felt exactly the same way as you do now. You don't say how long you've been with your husband but I'm guessing it's longer than that.

When you've been part of a couple for so long the idea of going back to being single and becoming completely independant can be terrifying.

One thing I do know is the longer you stay in a loveless relationship, the more you will start to resent each other. Make that break, talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling, they'll want to be there for you and help you through it.

It takes a huge amount of getting used to but each day gets easier and you will learn to enjoy your new freedom. I know it can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders when you're feeling the way you are and the only way to start feeling happy again is to stop prolonging the inevitible.

Good luck x

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