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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:So I have been totally ruined my life because of this situation. I love my boss a lot. I am a woman too, I was not gay in my whole of my life. When I saw her first time she attracted me, I didn't feel like that for any of other girl. I was thinking I just like her beauty and I text her one time that you were looking so much cute. Actually I was new in this country, my English is very bad and when I sent her text she didn't reply me for long time, I was still liking her and looking at her. One day I asked her for her photo she gave me, and I made this photo as wallpaper on my phone. On her Birthday I put red roses on her office table. She gave me the thank you card, in the reply of this card I did text her on her work cell phone that I really like you actually I love you, she didn't reply to me. She was just like a normal with me.After few days she called me in her office with other supervisor and said it was inappropriate behavior and I am not comfortable with that, and we are not allowed in this office any unwanted comments and things like that and you can be terminated if you do again. So I said sorry I was new there and didn't know about the rules and things properly, I was so much disturbed I started try to left any of the place where she was. After that I didn't text her anymore but still her photo was on my wall paper. Some of her friends and my coworkers saw that photo on my phone, I was still madly in love with her, always thinking about her but was trying to stay away to her, but I was looking at her FB and been shared many photos of her, I was not in her friends list but the photos who were for public I shared and commented. In those days I saw a very big change in her she behaved me very nicely all the time try to around me where I am, looking at me just like I was in the past for the long long time. I was surprised because of that my love for her had been increased, she is single and as I looked on her FB she looks like she is gay, but I belong to different culture I have kids I was never gay in my all life I didn't think about that. I don't know when and why I fall in love with her I just love her crazy for I can't express my feelings who much I do. Anyways finally almost after 6 months later I was in her office for some job related task she was very close to me as she wasn't before, and was nervous. In the evening I text her that I want to tell you something that is not my work related, can I let you know, she replied 'what do you mean', and I text her that you were looking so much beautiful, she replied this is unwanted comment as we discussed about that with other supervisor, and in office next day I asked her for other superviser's email because I wanted to apologized to both for my comment, but she called her and fired me because of her photo on my wallpaper and other workers saw that and I shared her pics from FB and that comment on her phone.A year later I didn't see her I have been totally crazy. She had been block me from her FB account , I have been requested her again and again that I want to see you but she did not reply. I tried a lot lot to forgot her, I have now a good job every thing in my life is okay but I just want her I can't erase her from my mind. All the time looks at her pics thinking about her, what should I do? please please help me I will be die with out seeing her I just want her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you soo much everyone , your answers were very helpful for me . I have been decided to no more contact with her and that's all Thanks again
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (26 April 2014):
 OP, if a man was writing this about a woman it would be truly alarming wouldn't it? It would be freaky, we would say that the man was stalking and harrassing the woman. Well the same applies. You are making her uncomfortable, and you know that she wants nothing to do with you. She got you laid off your job, that tells you how uncomfortable she felt around you.
How to stop obsesssing? Delete her photos and stop sending her FB requests and messages. You are torturing yourself by staring at her photos. You *won't* die if you don't see her, and you *can't* have her. Full stop. You aren't entitled to anything. If you can't accept that, you need to book an appointment with a good therapist.
I am being blunt because I've been harrassed before and it's horrible. It's genuinely scary. And while you continue obsessing about this woman, your life is on hold. You've already lost 12 months, which could've been spent making new friends and going on dates.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (26 April 2014):
You need professional help. You need to go and speak with a counsellor. Your behaviour is unhealthy. You are obsessing over someone that does not want any contact from you but you still persist. She has stated it clearly over and over that you make her uncomfortable and you are not to contact her. The next step your ex-co worker will do is contact the police to have you criminally charged. Get the help you need.
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