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writes:I am very unhappy with my partner. Quick rundown: We got together when I was 15, he was 18. We had a baby a year later and now live together. He has no job and I know he cheating on me with numerous people. I know I've been stupid and I want to get out of this.However, a few months ago, I got pregnant again on purpose to try and trap him into sorting himself out. I have only just admitted I did it on purpose, I know it's crazy but now what do I do? I'm giving birth in 4 months and he hasn't changed a bit!I need to make a clean break, I just can't believe how stupid I have been. My daughter is 3 now and I'm 19, I could've sorted out my life. Should I leave him and put the baby up for adoption? It makes me sick to even say that! Do I stay and get on with it? I'm so confused and angry with myself: how did I think this would change things? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (27 September 2006):
 why would you put it for adoption??? And yes dump him!!! Sorry to tell you this but you have been dumb!
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
 If you don't want to be with him then there is no reason for you to stay, I know you have a child and one on the way together but surely that doesn't mean you should stay with someone that doesn't seem to love or respect you and makes you so unhappy.
There is nothing stopping you from leaving him and still keeping your baby, plenty of women and men for that fact bring up children on there own and although sometimes it can be hard what part of bringing up a child isn't?
You really need to think about what you want and need to act on it as the longer you leave it the more unhappy you will get and children pick up on things alot more than we think they do.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): Leave, but try to keep the baby. Then again, it would probably be 'better' to give him/her up for adoption, to give it a 'better' lifestyle with more capable people. However, can u not ask your parents or your siblings, friends, relatives for help? I know it's a huge burden.
I have a few female friends who are single parents. It's crazy to think you would think to trap your bf by having more children... [sigh] I feel sad for the children who are born onto this planet with bad parents. Being a bad parent doesn't necessarily mean treating them badly neither.
Anyway, scolding u now is pointless. First try to find some financial aid (government services, family, friends) and emotional support. It is only after you've exhausted all your options, then you can think about giving up for adoption.
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