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writes: Heartbroken, help??I broke up with my boyfriend of 3years, 2days ago. I love him so much, but he isnt giving me all I need, I feel like Im the one that needs and loves him more than he needs me. He works long hours and I get that hes tired but I need to see more of him, its not enough for me to be just a weekend girlfriend. I meet someone almost a year ago, and he showed me all that I was missing, I never cheated but, this new guy makes me feel wanted and loved. I though that when I broke up with my boyfriend Id feel better knowing I could start a new happy relationship with the new guy. But Im devestated, I feel like someones has died and all I want to do is pick up the phone and ask for my b-friend back....I know he wont change but I dont know if I can take this pain....What should I do???
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reader, skywalker +, writes (31 October 2006):
I'd say stay with him..Life only gets busier and messier..you know him,r familiar with his nature.so try to make spend some time.What is the guarantee that the new guy will always give u attention.He might get busy tomorrow and then wat wud u do?? U also start working..stay apart for sometime,there's a gud chance your current bf will cum bak to his senses and give u all da love and attention.Some men r workaholic..it doesnt mean they stop loving or thinking abt it..just cnt show it..but if you're not in love with him,then move out..Gud luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): The first thing to remember is that the pain will not last forever.....it always feels like it will last forever and that you cannot cope, but ultimately people do cope and so will you.
You have behaved in an extremely honourable way by not cheating even though you had the opportunity, something that would impress many people that have been in similar situations including myself.
You know he won't change so you have to move on.....is it worse to deal with the pain now knowing that it will subside with time, or worse to stay with someone who you know can never give you what you want? You know the answer......
Deal with the pain and move on.
Good Luck
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