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writes: I am 20 years old and I live in a small town. Recently I've been getting quite depressed because I havent had a girlfriend in over 3 years. There has been a few girls over the years that have shown interest but they haven't really been right for me.The problem is that I don't really get much of an opportunity to meet girls, I go to the pub quite often but there isn't many girls of my age around. Most people I know go out clubbing at the weekend and thats how they get to meet new people but clubbing isn't really my scene and besides that I'm really quite shy and find it hard to talk to new people.This situation is really beginnning to get me down and it's affecting my self-confidence, which makes things even worse! I don't know where I'm going wrong but after 3 years I'm beginnning to lose hope, what do I do?
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reader, bridget +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Hey there Pet,
I really feel for your situation, you need to get your confidence up more.. Not every relationship takes a starting point in the pub..
To be practically honest clubbing isnt my scene either, Fortunatley for you though you should involve yourslef in other activities.
For Instanse, Join a gym, go to classes that take place around you.. You shoul think about getting your confidence motivated before you get involved in a relationship just yet.
I am definately positive that when you get yourself ut more, you will start to notice a change in your depressive
mood, It wont all go away at once, these things do take time and when they do you will notice it in the long run for the better..
Id seriously think about keeping yourself motivated and kept busy so that your depressive thoughts dont have time to linger in the air and distract you from the outside world..
Im not saying that you sit in all the time, but I am advising you to keep yourslef motivated..
Good Luck Fot the future, Keep me posted on how
you are doing pet..
Hope this has helped lift you spirits a bit..
Jacqueline
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