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writes: Ive had sex with my boyfriend but im to scared to perform fellatio on him( or give head). Im afraid i wont be able to please him and its just such unfamiliar territory for me im afraid ill get all scared and totally ruin everything. i want to so badly but i dont seem to have the courage to, Any ideas on how i can get over this problem on my own? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): It's up to you whether you swallow or not! One thing, though - Whenever I have done it, I have often been asked to be more gentle! So now I just imagine it is a banana and I'm trying not to bruise it..that seems to get the right moans!!! My b/f loves it when I flick my tongue around the 'head',(the most sensitive part) around the edges of the head, and blow gently and alternate fast/slow movements, and gently suck and lick his balls. He loves me to cup his balls whilst giving him a b/job and stroke them, his belly and thighs, nipples and bum. Keep alternating all this with hand-jobs and he will have a lovely long-lasting session!! Oh yeah, and try it after sucking strong mints. You can try some ice and alternate the sensation for him! oooh!!!...Now then, where did I put those smelling-salts!!! ;o) Have fun!
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reader, gerryaston +, writes (16 August 2006):
There is no right or wrong way to start doing it, just go for it he will love you even more.Remember that it is always best to swallow and not spit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): just want to add that that hanniseds had solid suggestions, accept the no right or wrong way part. Ask any lad this, tons of girls do it too softly, gotta grip the thing, not too hard, but dont be scared of it, solid grip, plenty of hand movement, and good suction!
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Hey there,
I felt exactly the same when it was working up towards my first time of giving head too! We had had sex heaps before, and I think it was about a year before I worked up the courage to do it (crazy I know,a whole year!).
I just started slowly, kissing down his belly, on this thighs - slowly working my way to his pleasure area. Lightly kiss up and down his penis, then move back to kissing him on his thigh, nipples, then back again. I found that I did this for a while and I gradually stayed down there for longer, it really helped with my confidence because I was gauging how I was doing from his moans and movements.
If you are unsure, just ask him "does that feel good baby" and go from there.
He won't be comparing you to anyone else and the fact that his girlfriend is kissing him down there is going to be sooo incredibly good for him that he will be losing himself in the enjoyment, not worrying about what you are actually doing if you get me!
Once you get past your first time doing it, you will find you will want to do it again and again and again (well I did anyway). Just play around with your hands, lips, tongue and warm breath and remember that there is no right or wrong way to do it! Have fun!
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