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*roubledlady1985
writes:Hi. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me, and we've been together for just 4 months? Thing is, he really loves me, as I can feel it. We hold hands and stuff. But, when it comes to hugging or kissing, he doesn't really like to do it in the public and i would be the one who initiate it.he lives almost 2 hours away from me, so on weekdays, we don't meet at all. on weekends, i really look forward to some really intimate time with him. but , he doesn't really hold me or kiss me.. much less mention sex to me.it was always me who kiss or hold him first.. and it was always me who ask things like, "do you wanna make love?" it's never him.he does have a stressful work environment. But i really don't know if that's affecting him. 2 months ago, we went on a trip, and when we slpt on the same bed, we had great sex.but , if we meet up on weekends, he never asks for sex. im a woman who wants to be kissed, held and loved. i can't complain about his other personality and character because he's a really great guy. what we lack of is this intimate touch.he simply said, "i don't like to do public affection"and i tried to respect it. But at times when I feel like crap, he doesn't even throw me a hug, just because we're "in the public".and also, just earlier on.. i messaged him on his cellphone (which he didn't reply) and on MSN that, "hey baby, we haven't had sex in 2 weeks"and he didn't even reply to me.and on msn, he just said that he just picked up a very irritating call and he was pissed.nothing in relation to what i mentioned!is that where we're going? That even when I said, "i want sex" bluntly, he still doesn't wanna reply to it?im thankful to be loved by him, but , i'm also a girl who needs sexual intimacy.what should i do? Is it because he doesn't love me anymore?Or, maybe, im unattractive to him?I don't know.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I also don't like PDA's (public displays of affection). It is something that comes from your upbringing and that is just the way it is. I come from a conservative family and never saw my parents or anyone in my community handling each other in public. Maybe he has a conservative background too. If he is ignoring your sex messages then perhaps you shouldnt send them?! His upbringing could be what makes him uncomfortable to be so forward and lascivious. I bet you guys have great sex, right?!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 how long have you been dating/together?
This is really unusual but it could be that you might be his first intimate lover, he's gay but does not know it himself, he's just not that into you; or possibly that he has another girl but if she sees him with you he will freak especially if you were cuddling/kissing in public. thus the reason for no public intamacy. (it could even be family reasons, or the fact he had a past girlfriend who broke his heart and he dosent want to be seen as moved on)
there are many variables here but maybe you need to start running a few little tests of your own and eliminate each one of the above one by one untill you come to some type of conclusion.
alternitavley just ask him straight out. "What the bloody hell is wrong with you?"
You obviously deserve much better attention miss troubledlady1985
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