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writes: Im a 19 year old female and have never had strong feelings for anyone particularly. But since before chiristmas i have been having strong feelings for a girl-this is not like me at all and its scaring me. Once more its scaring me because i think she might like me too, but hasnt said anything. I dont know if she is waiting for me to say something because i think she might know i like her, even though i try to hide it, i dont know what to do because i really do like her but dont want everything between us to do reuined if i tell her and it all ends in tears? help me please! Reply to this Question
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reader, tacobell5 +, writes (29 April 2006):
This is funny because I've personally been in your shoes before. And I can tell you, you're absolutely right that it's scary as hell, but it's also exhilirating all at the same time. I don't think you need to come right out and tell her that you like her. Because she may not be completely comfortable with that if she's never been with a girl before. I think you should just play out the friendship and see where it heads. If you guys both like each other, I promise, it will come out at one point or another. But make sure you drop subtle hints of flirtation. Make little comments to her that seem on the border of flirtation, and see how she responds. If she goes along with it, flirt just a little bit harder. And once again, if she goes with it, keep it comin'! But if she seems weirded out by the flirtation, the good thing about this is that you can totally play it off and make her look like the fool for "being weird enough to interpret it that way." It can't hurt.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (29 April 2006):
There's nothing wrong with having feelings for another woman.
If this girl is a friend of yours, then the best thing to do is to continue being friends, and then see whether you can be close enough to share a discussion along the lines of "have you ever thought about women?" etc ... that way, you'll have already built up a closeness with her, and it's an unthreatening way to find out, without actually telling her you fancy her.
Good luck, and please don't worry about your feelings - there is absolutely nothing wrong with them.
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (28 April 2006):
 The absolute worse thing that she could say would be no. Talk to her about it and see if she feels that same way. If she doesnt feel that same way about you, then just be like, well since i told you my feelings, i dont want anything to happen between us. if she is nice, she wont let that ruin your friendship. If she does feel the same way about you that you do to her, than i bet that you just made a great relationship.good luckRobinaka advice gurl
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