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writes:I've been seeing this guy for 7 weeks now. We've know each other for 2 years but didn't want to ruin our good friendship. We spend every weekend together. I know how I feel for him just un sure if our feelings are mutual. He always calls or texts right when i'm thinking of him. Sometimes he even calls just to say Hi. Guess the only problem for me is our title. Friends! I want to be his woman but we've agreed to get to know each other before we start officially going together. I just dont know what to do about us. I'm a 22 year old woman who doesn't want to rush or scare him away. I have alot of love and a lot of different things I want to do and experience with him but just afraid of opening up to much. I'm so lost it's scary. This could be my future husband...I don't want to scare him but want him to know how i really feel inside about us. What do i do? This is my first time feeling like this way about a man since high school.
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reader, LovinU +, writes (12 February 2009):
Thanks to you all for your advice. I really did need some help with this. I've deceided to wait until the time and place is right. I am still very much scared to open up around him but that is something we will have to work out ourselves so we keep good communication between one another. This is my first time feeling love in years. When you're young in school everyting is love but I now know that was lust. What I feel for him is Love..and can't wait to hear he feels the same...
Thanks again for everything. Can't wait to put the good advice to work.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (10 February 2009):
i think its best to keep what you are feeling to yourself for now- telling him you want more from him too early may scare him awaylet things be, continue texting and hanging out, hopefully soon he will bring up the subject himself
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): I would say go with your gut on this one, if you think that he might share the same feelings ask or rather tell him that you have gotten to know him so well and that time of just being friends has come and gone and you would like to move to the next level, but do remember to tell him that you will be OK if he still wants to remain friends, you might never know he might be sitting in his room right now feeling the same things you are not sure how you feel about being with him.True love is hard to find, I am 22 and in the process of losing my guy after 6 years, so I would advise you to follow your heart, but don’t come across to strong mention it when you are both in a comfortable place, and good luck dear and do let me know what happens Have a good day
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reader, tweety1 +, writes (10 February 2009):
I was friends with a guy for about a year. We were together all the time & shared so many interests. After about 10 months I started having feelings for him that went beyond friendship. It took me a month to confess these feelings because I didn't want to scare him off. When I did tell him I got the usual kind of crap a guy says to bow out gracefully. He didn't want to ruin our friendship by dating. Needless to say I got hurt, pissed & any other crappy emotion you can think of. The sad part is I lost him as a friend anyway. I'm not saying don't tell him, but wait til you think the timing is really right and pick up on any vibes you might get from him. If he starts thinking the same thing you'll know by his actions that he want to go to the next level. Good luck to you.
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