A
female
age
51-59,
*weetybird29680
writes:I found out my boyfriend of 5 years is looking at pictures of naked girls does that mean he is cheating. does he still love me. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): I've been together with my boyfriend for 3 years now. In the beginning when we first started dating, I found posters in his bathroom with naked girls and I wasn't digging it. But within a week of our new relationship, he took them off out of respect. But because we have a long distance relationship now, when I go to visit him, I find on his computer pornography and I feel so insulted. I am totally against my bf looking at porn but he keeps saying that I'm reading way too much into it and says that all guys look at porn (so it's okay). I just feel hurt and insecure now because I just think that if you really are in love with someone, you shouldn't have to go looking elsewhere. I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone: I know how you feel.
A
female
reader, mistydawn +, writes (4 April 2007):
 My boyfriend started doing the same thing. So, i asked him about it and he said its because our sex life has declined and he just dosent like how my attitude has changed towards him and life in general. I changed my attitude and as far as i know he has stopped looking at it. Just talk it over with him. If he really loves you he will tell you whats going on. What helped me to find out what it was, i cried when i was talking bout it:).
...............................
A
female
reader, Wendyg  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 What are these naked pics ? Are they porn ? Pics of women on dating sites ? Porn mags, photos hes suddenly got ?
I think we need more info, but for the record most guys at some point or other do look at porn. Just because you havent discovered naked pics before now, doesnt mean that hes not done it before and its probably not something new.
Why dont you ask him, you have been together 5 years, this is something you have just discovered and its something new about him, it doesnt mean he is cheating, but then i dont have much info to go on. It could just be what most men do! And before now hes just hidden it ?
Dont go jumping in, in case it is just the odd pic hes looking at, doesnt mean hes gone off you, or is cheating, or is intending to cheat, its just men like to look, yeah they are simple creatures and for most its pretty normal. So see if you cant just try and bring it up in conversation and have a chat about it, it might make you feel better if you chat to him about it, you might understand what its all about (alhtough women never will understand men and porn) but it might make you feel a bit better about it.
Take care good luck x x
...............................
A
female
reader, hannieseds  +, writes (3 April 2007):
 Hey there,
I would only be worried if he has just started doing this. You have been together 5 years, has he always looked @ pictures like this? Or is it a more recent thing?
If it is more recent, then I think you do need to question him. Why all of a sudden does he feel the need to look at these pictures? I wouldn't necessarily say he is cheating, but something has definitely changed if he has just started doing this and you have every right to know why.
...............................
A
female
reader, ruth2203 +, writes (3 April 2007):
he is a man he still loves you still finds you attractive but becuase porns not our thing we find it sick thats what i think dont take it to heart girl x
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): Not necessarily. I would just try to be more spontaneous with him. One thing though that is a sign of temptation since he is lusting after other females. It's up to you to stop it now by changing what you do. Mabe wear a maid's outfit, something sexy, that way his thoughts are always on you. Good luck!
...............................
|
