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writes:I accuse my boyfriend of cheating, though he spends all his free time with me. I have issues with trusting people not just him how do I learn to trust people? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): It's is about yourself and your fears, and the soft vulnerable side of yourself. Fear that somehow the way you really feel about yourself will come true - that you may not be good enough is some way.
The above answer hits the nail right on the head. Begin to do things that you love and like and want to to do, just for the sheer enjoyment of it, and learn to love just doing and being yourself. Gently test your boyfriend, and see if he's phased by you being just you, truly you, in your tastes and desires and loves and ideas and thoughts. Test very gently, and watch him come back to you over and over again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I think that sad as it is, it may be that the reason its hard to trust, is when the balance of our security is put too far in the hands of someone else and not ourself. If we have a pretty rounded life and are happy with ourself, then if someone abuses our trust it will hurt but it isn't the end of the world. Whereas, if we hand over to someone else the key to all our happiness, if they abuse our trust we are going to be devastated and also, always scared that they will decieve us before they do, because the consequences seem so high. So the best thing in some cases is to strengthen yourself and your life for you, and then sure, go ahead and trust someone but don't put all your eggs in their basket!! hope that makes some kind of sense
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reader, DV1 +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Life only lasts so long, so while we're here, we've got to take chances while we've got them. All we can do is extend our line of trust, and hope to pull back something good. It doesn't always work out, but it's the lessons that we take from it that matter. It's all about taking chances, and waiting for the one that works out. Trust gets broken, but it shouldn't affect someone else's chance at earning your trust. Take a chance, and open yourself up. If you get hurt, take some time, and try again. That's why we're here: to grow and learn. If we were able to trust everyone, life would be incredibly mundane...
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reader, lovato94  +, writes (20 June 2007):
I just asked my father who is 55 years old and has had his share of ups and downs in his life. He said the only one you can trust is yourself!!!! Although from time to time u will be suprised. Hope this helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Have u been hurt before???Has anyone mislead u into thinking something that wuznt true???Or it could be that u had a not so good relationship with another guy in the pastthat caused u to be that way iam 16 n i have that same problem i dont trust ppl either.I had a boyfriend that cheated all that time now i cant trust my new guy even though hes honest i have one friend who i trust and tell everything.People have to earn your trust.......thats perfectly normal.....but dont get insecure....u gotta give that guy a lil break.....hes always around u so how could he possibly have time to cheat....let your guard down a lil but u cant just "learn" to trust ppl :-)
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