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writes:So im friends with this lad,we have been for about a year now.We are really close and i would class him as one of my best friends.The thing is i have started to fall for him.I cant get him out of my mind and really wish we could be together.One of my fiends told him how i felt but eh just said it would be to weird because were such good friends.But now i really like him and i dont think ti would be weird at all.My question is should i just leave him alone n carry on with otu friendship? Or actually try??Tanya 15
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I think you need to talk to him. Since he already knows how you feel it won't be as awkward.If you guys are as close as you say you are then he won't be mean about it. Just let him know where you stand and make sure he knows it's okay if he only wants to be friends because you can't change the way he feels if he feels nothing. And at least if you talk to him about it if he doesn't feel something for you now, he may later because he knows it is safe to.Most guys in their teenage years are afraid to try a relationship with a friend because they are afraid of commitment and afraid that you won't be friends after.But in my experience the only way you will know if there is a possibility of you two being more than friends is if you talk to him about it.
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hello Tanya,Friendship is truely a wonderful thing - and it should be treasured, but being humans we naturally have the urge to be closer and eventually enter a relationship.Its relationships which were originally built on friendships are the ones that are most successful - you feel trusted, you feel safe and that you can be open with your partner (unlike new and undeveloped relationships). It is a question whether you would want to risk your brilliant friendship for a relationship (which in some cases can go down hill) and loose a very close friend (this is what is probably playing on your mind).What I would do is talk to your friend about your feelings, and how they have increased (do you get any inklings that he might be interested too?) - don't worry about his reaction, as being close friends he has no intention of hurting you (promise) - be open, and talk about. You may be surprised, he could of been interested in for a long time and just didn't want to say (for the same reasons; didn't know what you'd think). How ever, you need to enforce the fact that your friendship with him is the most important and you'd never want to risk loosing him as a friend - now the key part; if he agrees he would be interested in entering a relationship with you, make a promise to each other that no matter what happens you will always remain friends.Ryan
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