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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I need help! I have a major crush on a married mom at my son's daycare. We have known each other for several years. This crush is becoming very consuming. I think about her all the time, to the point where my wife is noticing a change in my behavior. My marriage isn't all that great otherwise I wouldn't be having these feelings. I think this woman likes me back. I can see it in the way she looks at me and in her body language. She is beautiful, funny and sensitive and very different from my wife. Maybe she is unhappy in her marriage, too? I don't know what to do. I try staying away but I can't do it for long. She keeps pulling me back. I feel like I really want to be with her because I feel a lot of chemistry and a connection with her. The feelings are getting harder to fight off. It is messy because we are both married and we have children but I can't help the way I feel. Please help! What should I do next?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): Listen, dude, you got a couple options. Do you still love your wife? If you do, then maybe you should stop thinking about this woman and start working on your marriage because you've got small kids together. Maybe you could have lost your intimacy as a couple or boredom set in. If you don't love your wife, think about getting out of that relationship first before getting into another one with this woman or anyone else. Be okay with being by yourself for awhile until you sort it all out. If you're having these feelings for the other woman, there is a reason. Maybe you have fallen for her. It happens. Can't kick yourself for how you feel. If you think she feels the same, maybe you should tell her. I know it sounds risky but if you really care that much about her you should go for it. We only have one life and you shouldn't stay married because of your kids or because you think it's the right thing to do. Better to be with someone you are happy with than stay in an unhappy marriage for the rest of your life, don't you think?It's gonna be tough whatever your decision but you gotta do what makes you happy, dude. You can't run and hide. Same thing happened to me. Me and the lady kept away from each other for years but we were just lying to ourselves. We both divorced our spouses and are married to each other now. Best move I ever made.Maybe she has feelings for you but doesn't want to interfere in your marriage even though she's unhappy in hers. She might not know if you really care for her. You will never know if you guys don't talk about it. You can dance around each other forever but that isn't going to solve your problem.Good luck.
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