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writes:I have feelings for this girl and we've been friends for 4 months now. We are both in college. She had a boyfriend but now they've broken apart from each other for about 3 weeks now and she is pregnant. I still have feelings for her but I don't know if she has any for me. We have about everything in common. But I hardly have anything to say. I stop being myself when I'm with her. I am so shy when I am around her. She knows that I am a really nice guy literally, but I also have the fear of being rejected. She is so sweet and caring, and she has this kind of beauty that no one can see, but I can see through that. There's not one day I go without thinking about her. Tell me how can I handle this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): Friends only you need to move on with your life she wasn't with you when you needed her and she made a mistake for which she has to deal with don't help her finacially just be there for her and if she ask for money dont' give it to her you just wasting your time a female thinks only one thing in this position what must i do to secure the future of her baby not your future not a future with you. Just hers even though it's mean she's gonna eventually try to find a guy that will help her and if you're not the one she will move on to the next one and you dont' wanna deal with that ex of hers anyways. Just be a friend that's it.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 be a friend ONLY to her throughout the pregnancy.
let her settle with her new baby and be there for her adn help out
you two will gradually get closer...
good things come to those who wait
feel free to message me with tips =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Your fear of rejection is really hurting you. Not only with her, but others to I suspect.
First I would like to say that if she just broke up with a guy, is pregnent, you need to be only friends for a while. She maybe looking to be alone because she is still hurting because of the ex and child. This pain can last a long time, and being that you have rejection issues, it is more then likely that because of her state of mind, she may unknowingly hurt you. So be careful.
Do you know why you fear being rejected? We all have some fear of rejection, but if we end up claming up when were with someone we like allot, then this is a problem, and you need to figure out why you do this. One way to figure this out is reinvision you in a typical situation where you have these behaviors, then ask yourself why. Write the question, and answer(s) down on paper. It might bring up depressing things from the past, so be careful you take a break every so often to allow yourself to regain strength.
Hope this helps to get you on your way. Take care!
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