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writes:In the past few months I've come across the same problem I've faced three times already now. I'm in love with somebody I don't even know yet. I know that for most people you will believe it's impossible to fall in love with someone you don't know, but for me it just happened. The problem is, I'm not sure what to do next. How do you tell someone you don't even properly know that you're desperately in love with them? Should I try and get my feelings out into the open or just carry on blocking them out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (18 August 2007):
 I believe it is most possible to fall in love with people you don't even know yet. Happens to me all the time. Maybe it is even easier because you can somehow create an illusion about them, how they are all perfect for you and all. I think it is called infatuation, but I know, it is really strong.
My advice is to not get your feelings out in the open if it means telling them you are desperately in love. It could be a little frightening for them :-)
You should however stop blocking them out. Approach them and start talking. Find a way to more calmly show them you are very interested in getting to know them. Put yourself in a mental straight jacket and keep calm and see what it leads to. Are they interested too, keep approaching and finally you will find out if you still feel love for them when knowing them better.
My experience of moving too fast in these situations, even if they seem to respond to your feelings, is that sooner or later you find yourself waking up with a huge, enormous romantic hang over.
Take care of your feelings and your heart.
Wish you luck!
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