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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:hello i have been with my partner for 7 years and it can be good at times but mostly it is argumentive he has a drink prob and always thinks he is right he is always picking fault with my children from my previous marriage and is very abusive and hurtful to me at times i am very depressed and under doctor for this and no matter how hard we tried nothing we do makes him happy or i think will ever be good enough what do you think i should do as we have a 5 yr old little girl together and she is seeing all this and it is not fair on her i would try to work it out as i do love him but i have had enough now
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your help i have been trying to do as you said but it doesnt seem to make any difference and things are not getting any better i am very grateful for you helpthank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): In cases like this you have to be firm but calm (don't escalate to arguments), your relationship/life/children/future are at risk if he doesn't stop his activities. Your morals are totally right, your child shouldn't be experiencing all of this and secondly you as a mother don't deserve to be treated in such a way (no woman should be.)Sit him down (when he is totally sober), wake him up in the morning and talk about it. Tell him he has to stop the drink and stop the abuse else he will end up losing you and his daughter, don't let him influence you with any comments there are hundreds of organisations out there designed to help you - and at any stage, don't be scared to approach them. Be strong in your comments, and truely mean them - tell him directly you're not happy - and haven't been for a long time, and that you are seriously loosing confidence in your relationship. If he agrees, tell him to personally get rid of all the alcohol in the house - tell him to stop going to pubs and then seek councelling from your local health service.Take him away from lifes stresses (including your self) go out and do things - enjoy it.Ryan
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