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writes:hi all. I need some serious help. My bf is having a hard time dealing with me because I become needy at times. I've had some hard relationships, and I tried to explain this to him, that I become needy due to all the problems in my past. Inside I always feel like I need reasurance, and the need to feel like I'm in something that is stable. If any of this makes sense. Of course I don't tell him this, I don't want to sound more needy than I already am. I pefectionize everything, I've always been this way so its hard to break this habit especially in relationships. I'm very attached to my current bf because he took my virginity recently. So this has been so hard on me because I really don't want to mess things up and make them complicated. Since my trouble with past relationships I have the tendency to think they will all turn out the same. I'll add this in as well, I have anxiety problems. I just don't know how to become less needy and to reasure myself things will be okay. Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (19 June 2009):
softballplaya is verified as being by the original poster of the question I wouldnt mind going and doing my own thing while he works or something, its just I don't hear from him for hours. Getting used or left is always in the back of my mind, I just don't really share these thoughts with him because he dosen't understand. I tried once, didnt turn out like I thought. Hes sympathetic but dosen't see where I'm coming from at all, so really I just keep it in. Probably dosen't make it much better tho
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Just relax and go with the flow.. if things work out they work out and if they dont then they wernt meant to. I used to be the same, it takes some time but you have to learn how to just relax. I have realized that if something bad is going to happen in my relationshp its going to happen either way, so its better for everyone if I can let things be. Its much better for your relationship and im sure he would like it if you could relax too! Good Luck!
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