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female
age
30-35,
*elples
writes:I have a big problem. I'm extremely not okay with my LDR boyfriend making any new female friends. I know it's impossible to separate the two when A) I'm so far in distance to actually see if it's just a friendly thing and B) there are only two genders in this world. I don't know how to make myself okay with it when the time does come. I've talked to him about it, he says he doesn't HAVE to but he wants to know I won't be mad if it does happen. I asked if he was hiding female friends from me because of his precautious about my jealousy, and one thing we don't do to each other is lie, so he said no. Although we didn't get to finish talking about it since he was headed to class, I'm anticipating the day or moment when he'll make a female friend. I know people will say it deals with self-esteem but I've read everything about it and how to improve it yet I'm still bothered by the idea of him becoming close with another girl. For instance, I was friends with him before we went our during high school. Best friends to be precise and he told me everything. Something I noticed back then and continued even when we went out (which caused so much drama) was that any female friend he had at one point either liked him or he flirted with them unintentionally (like just being nice, doing things for them, commenting whenever they asked him to).After all that drama, I decided to call it off. I couldn't take it anymore. A few months later, he came back like a changed person. He hardly talked to girls when he started talking to me again. It's like I was the only one. But until we graduated and started college, he's changed from that person who solely talked to me to wanting to expand his choices to talk to other people. I understand wanting to meet new people so it brings me back to my first dilema. I just don't know how to deal with him talking to girls again.Also, please don't say LDR relationships don't work. I've noticed thats how some people like to solve a problem on this website. No, it's not that I think we won't work out. I rather hear solutions than taking drastic measures. =/ Thank you in advance.
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