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writes:i have recently ended my relationship after nearly 2 years together. we were arguing constantly, upto the point where we were actually afraid to talk to each other because of what would happen. I have a problem with contradicting people that has been a problem for a long time now. we both have strong opinions and they conflict a lot. i feel that if i stopped contradicting her all the time, that our arguments would not happen. i was wondering if there was anything that i could do to stop myself from contradicting her? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Well it depends what you were arguing about because in some instances it is right to stand your ground but in general the best advice I can give is that you need to learn to appreciate the other persons point of view and to meet somewhere in the middle. Having said that there are things on which my views are strong and I know I wouldnt yield to anybody on.
It may simply be that you do not share the same perspective and values in life and in that case arguably the relationship would not have lasted long in any case. The other piece of advice that I could suggest is to try and avoid topics where you know you clash. Having said that I cant help feeling that there maybe a little more to this if you were arguing all the time. I wouldnt blame yourself, I would have to say accept the fact that you werent suited and move on from there, good luck :)
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