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writes:hi, this is more confession than question but i would like some feed backso i have a pretty...well lets call it healthy, sex drive. i think sometimes it screws with me being happy with my life. i dare say i am on the boarder of being a porn addict. at times i will choose to look at porn instead of go Off-roading with my friends (a big hobbie of mine) recently i have found myself spiraling down.i have been getting into some skechy, boarder line kinda porn. stuff i know i shouldnt get into. i know i shouldnt which makes me deppressed about my self and my whole life even tho i am a lucky guy. im very smart, i have a beautiful fiance who loves me. i almost feel as tho my life is ready to be over (not by my own hands but by gods hand) i have done to thing that a man should do, served my country and love a woman with all my heart. now i am left with no direction making sense. i realize i am rambling so i will just stop now... thank you for listening...
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reader, whitemoor5  +, writes (29 May 2009):
 No-one's perfect.
Don't go cold turkey, but don't get over-addicted, take it one day at a time.
If it's affecting your ability to have relationships speak with a counsellor about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Rather than talk to people that don't know much about porn addiction, why not go talk to people who do and find out what their experiences have been with it? This situation is mentioned on this web-site daily, but the real porn addicts are on this site : npsupport.net
There you can find information the chemical aspect of this addiction, how it can affect a relationship, and how it can lead to erectile dysfunctions (usually not at your young age).
Also, there is an online free workshop series that are very helpful if you decide to try and beat this thing, you can find it here : recoverynation.com
Consider this...many people get involved in drinking when they go to college...and most stop when they get into 'the real world' BUT, there are some people who spiral downhill and become full blown alcoholics and can't recover from their antics. These people get seriously worse the older they get (think of a 50-60 year old alcoholic)
This pattern holds true for all addictions...heroin, tobacco, cocaine and yes, porn. It does have a cumulative affect. Only you can answer wether or not you have a serious problem, or on the path to loosing control of your useage. Do a little reading, it may save yourself much grief.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): "i almost feel as tho my life is ready to be over (not by my own hands but by gods hand)"
Because you looked at some porn? Dude, its not that big a deal. You might think God will smite you, but that also translates into self aggrandizement on a pretty big scale. And it CAN manifest into something dangerous, thinking you don't deserve to live, on some level. We influence the situations and outcomes of our lives with our inner dialogue and mindset.
All this shame you feel is indicative of you reprimanding yourself for not living up to your own self-standards. Perhaps your self-standards are set too high? Take it easy on yourself..
God won't smite you down just because you looked at some porn. Do you know how many people there are out there that have given in to their sickest/darkest desires and never even felt the slightest hint of remorse or contriteness? The very FACT you feel ashamed speaks volumes for your character. You can't be perfect, just ask for forgiveness, and forge on.
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