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writes:Hi, I split up with my ex girlfriend a year ago after 5 years (she was my first serious girlfriend). A few months after we split up she got engaged to another guy and moved in with him. I met an amazing girl who I have a great time with. I feel I have a far better connection with her than I ever did with my ex. The problem is I just can't seem to get my ex out of my head even though things weren't that great with her. Any advice on how to move on.Thanks
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reader, Slimsam  +, writes (16 April 2007):
Again,i think the issue here is about the devil u know,than that Angel that you dont know.You could just be afraid of the unknown future with your current girl,comparing to your ex who you already know inside out,n who also already understands you better.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (11 April 2007):
 I think this is just a case of did I really miss that boat, maybe sour grapes or something, afterall you say shes engaged, and from I read you two werent.
Its probably more over that the two of you were together a long time, 5 years of anyones life is a big chunk, that cant be erased just like that... It takes time to adjust, and especially when you find someone new its like learning everything over again, and you without realising probably compare the two. The 5 years you had with the ex GF were probably like a comfort zone, and thats what your missing... Your scared of the future with the new girl, the fear of the un known makes you sometimes refer to what you know! What im trying to say is its early days, you shared a big chunk with your ex, she will always be in your memories, we all have them, we all carry them, we all cherish them, she just wont always be as vivid. its just natural progression and its normal to hold her close to your heart as she was your first love, I know I still wonder what my first love is doing, despite the fact hes a rat! (and thats some 14yrs since we split) its just something we will always have in our hearts.
You will move on from it when your ready, depsite you saying things were not great with her, its a case of a safety net, what you know makes you secure. Focus on the here and now, the past is just that, the past, we all have to move on to bigger and better things, and once one door closes another opens. Try and take on a few new challenges with your current GF and enjoy her more, explore more, do more! The rest will take care of itself.
Take care x x
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