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writes:i met this guy awhile back at a hockey game, we saw each other but it was through a crowd of girls (he was one of the players and he's quite popular). He smiled at me (and i know it was at me because i was the only girl standing on that side)... and i think i have a little bit of a crush on him now. He's not coming back here until next season, so i have no way of talking to him or anything, would it be totally wrong of me to email his coach (using the emails listed on his teams' site) and ask what his email is? i'm not usually that type but he's really special, makes me feel giddy whenever i think about him. Either that or my other idea was to make a free website and write like a letter thing to him, so if he searches his name he'll find it, and my email will be listed on it so if he wants to get ahold of me he can... what do you think i should do? if neither of these do you have any other suggestions?I don't even know if he has a girlfriend, so i'm going out on a limb here with this... please helpxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Hi, I did not mean to say that you were a stalker, I said that he might feel that you are, most men and boys prefer not to be chased, they like to be the pursuer....is this guy a lot older than you are? E-mail addresses are considered private information to be given out only by the owner of the address, you can ask, but you would be being presumptive and probably won't get a reply.
I know that sometimes you can pine over what might have been but seriously it is a waste of time and emotional energy, you have a choice not to waste it on something that is not available to you now, look around and appreciate what is in your own stratosphere and you may be surprised at what you find!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually i havn't posted on here before.... one of my friends did and then told me about it after the fact, which is why i'm here now because i am still really unsure about things. I'm not a stalker, not even close to being one so please don't assume that. All my life i've been the one to stand in the corner and just let things pass me by, i never take action for anything. And it literally haunts me never knowing what could have been, and i want to know what could be. At least if i asked for his email i'd know right? even if it was a little weird..?! and i think that if a guy liked me enough to have the courage to ask my friends for my email that'd be sweet of him, not weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): My typing is atrocious, I meant crushes are fun not phone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Hi honey, I think you have posted here before about this hockey player crush.
I am concerned that you are taking your crush to an obsession....you are building this guy and his attraction for you in your mind to a level that is unhealthy.
His coach will not give out the guy's email address. If you want you can send a fan letter addressed to him to his coach and he may give it to him, but I think he may mostly be weirded out at your fatal attraction behavior.
A smile is just a smile, he did not walk over to you an intoduce himself and ask for your number, so why are you hunting him down.
Please move on and focus on school or on making some friends including a new boy friend.
Crushes are harmless and phone, but not when they go to the level of stalking someone which is where you are headed it sounds like.....leave it alone, you are just hurting yourself by living in the fantasy land. I am sure you are lovely and good enough for him, but he is not accessible to you, doesn't even live near you.
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Don't do he free website thing because it's not very likely that he'll search for it is it? You could get his email address from the coach but...wouldn't he a little weirded out that some random girl has got hold of his email address? In the same way, imagine a guy likes you and he was too shy to ask you for your number so he got it from your friend. Wouldn't you be a little annoyed that your number is being given out like that? Even if you liked they guy wouldn't you prefer it if your friend didn't give out your number?
Ok ok, I know it's different because you have no other way of contacting him but...yeah maybe the email address thing could work. Let's just hope he reads it though. So go ahead and ask his coach for his email address. Good luck.
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