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writes:Hi,Recently I got a temporary job at a school, I've been there now for about three months and have met this guy, the bad part is I have a boyfriend. Now this guy is just like my bf except he older i don't know his exact age but I would say late 20's. now when I say he's just like him I mean its weird they both have the same hobbies and the same sense of humour, which in turn is what drew me to my current bf and now has attracted my attention the man at work.He started off by make small comments about what I was wearing, complementing earrings and telling me my hair looks pretty down(he was watching me in my car) Now when I go to his room (I'm an ict technician) members of staff keep saying that he doesn't need to break things to get my attention, when they say this he quickly tells them to shut up and asks them to go and do something. The other day a female member of staff said I thought you were putting your charms on her, at which he again told them to stop, and he went quiet and said i didnt say it like that, and told me after that he didn't say that . When I had fixed everything he told me he would have to start breaking things so I would come and see him I laugh but he told me I'm serious. I scary part is I find myself thinking about him and its almost an obsession, I love my boyfriend and don't want to leave him, we have been through a lot and I can see myself with him in the long term but this guy at work has thrown a spanner in the works. Does anyone have any ideas as to how to keep him off my mind, I'm busy anyway most of the time as I work and do college, I need to get this guy off my mind but I can't avoid him at work. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for the reply, I have already told him I have a boyfriend and it hasn't put him off, another problem is I made friends with a girl at work and it turns out they are best friends, so hanging out with her ultimately involves him. Thanks for the tips though, I think one of my problems is that in trying to be nice to fit in he may have got the wrong idea.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (17 November 2012):
 How about mentioning you have a boyfriend in one of your future conversations or to some other employees who see him? If he knows you are in a serious relationship he may stop calling you in to flirt and hit on you. And the less you see him the better it'll be to keep him off your mind. Other than that all you can do is avoid him the best you can, don't appear flirty or interested when he does make remarks, remain strictly business and professional. He will get the hint eventually. Hopefully avoiding him as much as you can and cutting out the flirtation from him will keep him off your mind.
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