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writes:ok well here goes...My sister has been with her bf for almost a year now and well first time I met him I thought he was rude because he said things that were quite offensive - which for the first time meeting his gf's sister... that's pretty surprising!... anyway I let it slide. After continuous offensive remarks and behaviour towards myself/mother and family... I've had enough!Today just topped it off... he says things like "oh shut the f**k up..." when I'm telling a story and he also bags my family out by many ways that I can't describe but we are a big family coming from a portuguese background so yeah we may be loud but we have done a lot for him!!! I thought that I could leave it behind and move on and continue because he makes my sister happy and I'm sooo close to her but lately I feel like I'm losing her :( and we're very very close! I want to keep peace but I don't think I can keep quiet much longer... he degrades me so much I just cry every time I've seen him!What do I do?? I've told him to shut up and stop being rude and say things about me and my mum/family but when I say that he just goes "oh I was joking gees!" do I tell my sister that I actually don't like him? I HAVE NO CLUE! It's killing me, I love my sister so much I dont wanna lose her!thanks...
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reader, Da_Kid_RB  +, writes (22 January 2012):
I had that exact same problem! I told my sister that i thought her boyfriend was rude and she needed to talk to him and she said that i was just jealous of him. Which i thought was ridiculous. After a while of continuously telling her i didn't like him i just snapped and told him that he needs to never come to my house again. But me and my sister haven't talked since. and its been 3 months!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): I have the same problem my sisters bf is a total jackass and I told him that if he didn't stop I'm gona burn his house while he sleeps and he stopes. So mabey talk to it sister and have her ask him to be nicer or else.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Does he talk all this hot garbage in front of your sister or when she is not in the room?
Either way I would tell your sister that you would love to spend time with her but not with him, so maybe the two of you can hang out without him. He really doesn't have to be there.
Tell her you find it offensive and hurtful when he goes off on one of his tantrums.
She is your sister, you should be able to talk to her, just don't put any ultimatums out there and I think it will be fine. She might be hurt that you don't like him, but she might actually start to notice those unpleasant things about him.
Good luck and I"m sorry your sister is dating a moron.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Blood is thicker than water, or so they say, so I doubt you'll lose your sister. If you're that close to her, tell her how this asshole of a boyfriend makes you feel and ask her to have a quiet word with him.
Telling you to shut the f**k up is hardly a joke, and I don't know of anyone who would think that it is. There's no harm in telling her that you find him an offensive git.
I'd be inclined to get up and leave the next time - and make sure everyone knows why you're leaving. You don't visit people to be insulted, it's just not the way a civilised human being acts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): Why is your sister still with him if he's saying degrading things to you and the family? Sit down with your sister and tell her how he makes you and the family feel. If he's doing it to you, it's properly ten times worse for your sister.
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