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writes:Just recently I had some relationship trouble in my life. I have a sister who is quite younger than me who is going to the school I went to. She is in fifth grade and has the same teacher I had. She told him about what had gone on. At her school play he told me that I could come to him if I needed someone to talk to. Well I came to his class room about a half hour after school ended and he told me that we could go to his place to talk. I went with him and we talked. I don't know how, but somehow we ended up kissing and we ended up having sex...I think I have feelings for him. Is this a safe relationship to get into? He isn't my teacher anymore, but he is my sisters and I think that might be a little akward...
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reader, TimmD +, writes (25 March 2010):
 He took advantage of you for sex. Don't get involved. I'd even be cautious about your sister. He could be "planting seeds" in her mind already to where she develops a crush on him. Not that anything would happen yet, but maybe when she's older. If she's already telling him about stuff that goes on in your life it means he might be talking to her about more than student-teacher stuff.
Be careful....
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Well it's not a crime if he is with you and teaching your sister. Only if he was teaching you would it be punishable. However, how well did you know him before you slept together? But to me it sounds a bit like he was just after some action. Go to his house a couple more times and if he tries to initiate sex every time then I don't think it is a relationship you should pursue. However, if there is a chemistry and is happy to pass up sex just for a chat or to hang out and do other stuff then it could be a good relationship.
Also, how old are you and how old is this guy?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 This teacher is a very dangerous man because he took advantage of your weakness and have sex with you .
On all accounts, he should not be involved with you on a sexual level.
By inviting you back to his place, he had an ulterior motive. He could have asked you to a public space like a cafeteria or advise you there and then .
Beware of this teacher and it is a dangerous liaison. He could be using you for his desires.
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reader, jopa +, writes (25 March 2010):
well sorry to say, but i dont think it can work..
for one, am not sure your sister will support you on this one
and two, it seems to me like you rushed abit..and the teacher is probably using you..
so probably you should slow down...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): Hi there
Well it depends..
I mean my sister kinda had a thing with a teacher once after she left. And then he taught me. It wasn't akward. I don't think it would be too akward.
THe only problem would be is if something goes wrong and you have issues with him he might take out his anger on your sister.
But up side is you get to enjoy your time with him. So really its your decision. If your feelings for him are very very strong. Then go for it. Feelings shouldn't be ignored. They're usually experiences that help us form ourselves for when we're older. IF you get what I mean.
But good luck.This is your decision. You can't help what you feel.
:)
-tevote
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reader, Myau  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 This is quite a mess you have gotten into.
Well I doubt a relationship will be a good idea. Your sis wont appreciate it at all.
I am a bit concerned that you went there to talk and ended up sleeping together. Didnt you just want advice? or didyou want him?
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