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writes: I have been in the best relationship of my life. My boyfriend is loving and caring. The thing is that last night I had a dream about his best friend and I. We were in a car and the next thing I remember we were sharing a passionate kiss. And then we shared a few more. It never went farther than that though. The thing is, I dont know if I should feel guilty about this. Should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): Dont feel guily unless u want to act on the dreams. I have a great relationship w/ my bf and i've had a dream or 2 about his close friends. I know they are just dreams and that its ok to think one of his friends are attractive and not feel anymore then that because i love my bf, so just relax and enjoy ur dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): I don't think you should feel too guilty about, after all, you can't control what you dream about! It's whether you act on those feelings you had that is important.
I've dreamt a good few times about one of my best friends girlfriends for about 4 years now (lol!) and I've sometimes felt a little guilty about it, especially if I go out with them both! I actually had one of these dreams last night because I read a similar message to this about fantasy dreaming just before I went to bed. It was nice though, first girl I've dreamt about other than my ex-girlfriend since we broke up!
Enjoy your dreams, it doesn't have to mean any thing as long as you don't pursue him in real life. :)
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reader, Miss Bennet +, writes (12 July 2006):
Our brains are hugely complex organs and they process phenomenal amounts of information everyday. Some of it is concious and some of it is not. When we sleep our brain does not stop processing but it certainly doesn't work the same way as when we have conscious access to it. I am a firm believer that our dreams are like a mixing pot of things we have seen and done, things we are worried about, and pure surreal nonsense. When all of this comes together we can get dreams that make sense (like th ones about your test next week) dreams that make no sense (like dinosaurs have taken over the outer space shopping centre- a personal favourite) and dreams that make semi-sense like ones where your friend is there but it actualy isn't your friend, or the ones where you are married to (or being inappropriate with) someone that you care about platonically. Don't worry about them, even have some fun with them!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2006): I think dreams are a place for you mind to wander. Sometimes you can shape your dreams by thinking of something before you go to bed. Dreams are not a science and may never be fully understood.
I wouldn't put to much into this and there should be no guilt as you didn't act on anything. I'd be concerned if you started to fill out this dream and make it a waking fantasy you play over and over in your mind. This will make you long for him and then tempt you to act on it in your waking state. Is this the case?
I am guessing not.
I'd put that dream and the mate out of your mind and think of all that you have with your boyfriend.
Take care.
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