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*trong__dan
writes:I having bee seeing this guy. He went to ontario for a month then came back on sunday in which i picked him up from the airport and paid for his plane ticket. My truck died on saturday so i had to pay for a rental car to drive him 3 hours back to where he lives. We were getting along great but then we went to his friends house and he text me and said I was hot and wanted to **** jokingling. I just laughed then he said lets go have a nap so we did. He just wanted sex and I said no. I'm not on anything so didn't think it was a good idea plus he told me it never works out with girls he has sex with before they date. So i didn't do it. He freaked out and got mad. He was so into me and wanted to settle down with me and said i was his girl before. So he got mad and stormed out of the room so i said maybe i should leave and go drive back 3 hours he said yes. So i left but then thought i should text him. This is how or convo went: me: how do i get out of here? are you going to pay for the plane ticket. him: oh yeah. come back. me: k in a bit. him: well i'm golfing now lol. just stay the night. no sex. were just friends. I have your money in my pocket. me: i'll just come pick it up. I don't think I should stay the night to upset. him: look i don't know why. this is why my relationships fail because i'm clueless okay. me: i wanted to tell you but you wouldn't liste. I'm sorry I didn't have sex but i'm not on anything. him: thats the reason why? thats fine. Its best that way in rerospect. me: I said that to you and because of what you said. I knew I shouldn't of drove you up i'm sorry about today :(. him: Danielle I am hapy you drove me and I would be happier if you stayed the night. Please danielle. All this talking would be a waste. me: only if you give me a huge hug and a kiss. him: okay. but i'm golfing right now. me: k i'll just go home I don't know what to do. him: well I have your money. Just stay. I'm sorry i'm not perfect but just me a chance okay? me: okay :( him: okay. go talk with candyce. she would love you. me: i'll wait till your done. him: okay I just started. me: how long? him: a few hours. thats why i'm saying go talk with candyce. me: how do i get to lloyd from here, i'll just go visit some friends. him: turn left etc. me: i found it. him: okay i'm sorry i threw a hissy fit. me: its okay i'm sorry too. Let me know befroe your done and i'll head back? then we had a normal conversation. we then made up and everything and i guess we did end up having sex that night but i thought it was not that big of a deal he said he really liked me and to trust him. then the next day he acted so weird and left with his friend and left me there so i drove to lloyd a city an hour away. this is how our convo went: he:did you head to the city already? me:yeah i did he:oh okay. yeah i asked candyce. you seeing friends? me:yeah and going shopping. he:oh okay. well i will be at justins parents for a bit. me: okay, do you want me to come back? he: its up to you me: i'm asking you though he: i don't care me: hm k i'll just go home, don't seem to want me there he: no i do. i'm just not ready for a serious relationship like i thought i was. I need time to get my life in order before i commit to you. its hard to do that when i can't commit to myself. me: i don't know what to do he: i don't know either. i would guess just keep talking and hang out me: i don't think i can do thatme: my cell is going to die so if i stop talking thats why. i'm on my way home now he: how come? he: okay me: i can't wait till your maybe ready. i'm so ashamed of myself. he: why are you so ashamed of yourself? me: cause of yesterday and last night he: oh thats how you feel? me: yeah it is me: i'll leave you alone, maybe we should stop talking for a bit he: okay? me: what does that mean? he: okay i'm confused me: so am i me: so when did you figure out you didn't want to have a relationship, after we had sex this morning? he: as bad as it sounds yes me: nice thanks a lot. Thats the last time we talked which was today. We talked everyday when he was in Ontario, its like a switch went off i messed up. The day after this happened he text me trying to have a normal conversation so i just acted nice. What is up with him and how do I get him back? It now been 2 and a half weeks. He emailed me thursday and said his cell phone wasn't working thats why we never talked, then texted me friday, then i texted him saturday and thats the last time we talked. I really like him and don't know what to do?? will he text me and does he like me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): See, 1st of all anyone who would read this post will advice you to LEAVE HIM as he just played with your feelings. He is a play boy. All he wants is to just have sex with girls. In my experience, every guy who likes a girl would be good to her. He liked you so he had sex with you. He just had feelings for you to have sex. Love is not all about having sex. Its about commitment and trust. And he is not upto to keep them. Its not about he is good or bad, its about he is not at all good for you. My best frend, the guy whom i really liked and we had always good company together liked me too. He had a girlfirend whom he loved alottttt. Evrything was normal. I had feelings for him but I always controlled because of my lost love. I'd been always nice to him and he beeen nice to me toooo. But at the end, he started having feelings for me. And this all started for the simple reason that he was physically attracted towards me. Once we were just playing, and I started teasing him and giggling and tingling him on his stomach, Then he held my hands and hugged me from back and for atleast 5 min, he held me. He just got carried out. I couldt stop him because i got shocked and closed my eyes. After 5 min, when he opened his eyes, he found me in his arms as he was feeling me. He tooo got shocked and i just went away. Ater that i didnt discuss, got normal and came back. We talked normally as nothing had happened. After studying when i went home, i recalled me being in his arms. But then i explained my self this is not going to work, so its no point thinking about him. As I didnt wanted to ruin his realationship. But after some weeks, he discussed about that and asked my feeelings and opinion about that. I told him are you mad? Honestly, i didnt give a secong thought about it and I even do not want to think about it bcoz its not good for us. He didnt say a word. But on and off, he wanted to know my feelings for it. But I refused. After a while, in frustration, I told him that i was just shocked but i didnt hav any feelings bcoz i was in my senses, it was you who got carried over and was feeling me. Then he told me firmly that, after that day and couple of times when iv beeen closer to him, hugged him or ggiggling him, slappling him, holding his hands, and he holding me into his arms, have developed feelings for me and he's beeen thinking about me for 1 month. I was shocked because I never thought baout him this way. I just told him, that dont take me in this way, bcoz your gf would really feel bad and it can result into something bad. He said sorrry. Then we were normal. After 1 month, When we were studying together( usualyy in car or at his place), he held my hands as I was shouting at him as he was continously making mistakes in solving problems, and took me towards the sofa and asked me to rest for half an hour as I havnt slept since 2 days due to examz. He went to kitchen, bathroom, changed, etc,etc and after 20 min came into the room and slowlyy sat besides the sofa watching me. When i opened my eyes, I saw him staring at me, I suddenly got up and told let's study, its too much to study, he held my hands and warned me to rest as half an hour is not over. He made me lay down, kissed my forehead and held my hands as I was too cold. After 5 min, holding his hands, I just closed my eyes as I felt so relaxed, then he came slowly towards me kissed my cheeks, forehead and then told me if u havnt slept, then shift as he wanted to also lay down. I told him go and fid sme other space. He told me common just shift. I told him, dare you do smthing bad. I was jus giigling with him . then he held me from back onto his arms and slowly and slowly started feeling me all over. My eyes were shut. I got carried over and liked it tooo. But when he really started pressing and holding my body tightly, he said it again and again, that Im really tooo soft and sexy. I recivered my senses and opened my eyes. I told him to stop but he didnt, He told me dont ask me to stop and dont go away from me. I told him, its bad just stop, it will be worse, n he was really kissing me all over. Then I pushed him, and shouted ARE YOU AWARE WHAT ARE YOU UPTO?? ITS REALLY BAD WHATEVER WENT. hE WAS TOO SHOCKED. I just went out of the room, recovered my senses and anger and came to him. We discussed on this and he was really sorry for that. In short, after 2-3 months, he asked me the reason that in starting I also got carried over but then i asked to stop? He asked me that if yoy were really enjoying why you asked to stop? I answered him, Listen i do agree i enjoyed in starting because i got carried over, but if don't have future why will we do all this stuff. instead i wouldnt hesitate doing with my future love mate. I love you sooooo much but just as a friend. Because i cant love you more than that. I am a girl who loves serious relationships and you are committed. you love her alottt and you wouldnt leave her for me. Will you?? And if you leave her also, I would still not be with you because for sake of my happiness, I dont want to disheart other person. He understood and told me soory. and we became frenz again. But after 8 months, due to me being in my emotional state and life, I always use to share with him, we had sex. When he started, I told him that I dont want to have it, He told me that you will feel relaxed, he started everything by taking me into his arms. And I got carried off, ad we ended up having sex. In between, when it hurted me and even i dont prefer it for long, he slowed down and told me to relax. he relaxed me and told me that he doesnt wants to stop. I got shocked because i was then in my full senses. I told him that dont mind but its enough whatever we went through. He relaxed and told me that just realax. i'l massage you... then again i got carried away that we didnt stop. I really liked it only for that time. But after we left, everything seeems to be lost. HE WAS REALLY NICE TO ME AFTER THAT. HE ALWAYS USED TO HUG ME, KISS ME, HOLD ME IN HIS ARMS, AND WE EVEN HAD SEX FOR 2ND TIME. bUT still i used to feeel as smething I hav lost. I always used to keeep thinking baout him and I started loving him and being jealous with his gf. As he used to spend 6 hours with her. Ans max 3 hrs with me. I thought tha im cheating myself and his gf. So I told him that i have feelings for him. He relaxed me down and told me that he loves his gf alotttt and oves me only as a best friend. You are moree tooo sexy and soft and beautiful as my gf, but i cant leave her. I got shattered. After this also, he was nice to me and even i was normal to him. But kept myslef distant. So my little girl, From this story, you can anyalze that that it doesnt mean that if a guy is nice to you , he has feelings for you. I was your age only when all this happened. But i was rreally practical and matured and learnt a lesson. I moved on and till now its 5 years he is with that girl.
Si now you have to decide. Best of luck!!!
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