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writes:My bf and I are really good friends with this other couple. We chill and hang out all the time. She’s a super good friend of mine and her bf is my bf’s best friend too. The thing is we’ve all noticed that her bf and I have more in common and vise versa. It’s so weird. It’s like my bf was made for her ( I'm not jealous) and her bf was made for me in personality and interests. They are both movie/music buffs and love the starbucks thing. I and her bf on the other hand rather read a book than watch tv and are into nature and politics. I feel there is not “romantic” chemistry between my gf and my bf, however, I am not attracted physically whatsoever to her bf, but I get turned on talking to him. He’s always careful with what he says to not get my bf or his gf jealous or upset, but I know that he IS physically and personality wise attracted to me. They’ll come over and my bf and gf will sit in front of the tv, while her bf and I sit in the back just talking and laughing. This past weekend when we were saying good bye (C ya L8R) @ the door and we all hug and kiss bye as normal, but he gave me an extra tight hug that lasted a lil’ longer than normal. He smelled my hair and that turned me on, but only my bf does that. I’m so confused, because I don’t see me sleeping with this guy (meaning if we were all single). What do you think I should do? Or what do you think is happening to me and all of us? Are we normal?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (23 February 2007):
 It sounds to me like you have more in common with your bf's best friend than you do with your boyfriend, and the same same with your bf and your best mate.
I think everytime you see this guy you are developing more feelings which you can't control.
When they come over instead of all being in a group like most people would be you seperate off into pairs, with you at the back of the foom with this guy, and your bf on the sofa with your mate. This dosen't strike me as being very normal to me.
This guy has most certainly got feelings for you, i mean you just don't end an evening and give your friends girl an extra long hug then smell their hair.
I would talk to you boyfriend about all this and see what his opinion is on it all. Maybe he is thinking the same things as you are.
good luck x
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