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writes:I'm really sorry this is so long but it requires a fair bit of explanation :DSo a few years ago I was stranded in this class, in which I was the only girl. That sucked. Then this guy (then kinda funny/nerdy looking XD) sat next to me and was just genuinely nice to me, which cheered up the lessons a lot because:1. I had a new friend who I really 'clicked' with2. we both got to have a little harmless flirtThere were a few issues at the time with the other guys taking the piss out of us with typical 'ohhh they're going out' etc etc kind of jibes which were really annoying! My new friend had just saved me from 2 years of being on my own in a group of adolescent guys, so I had a lot to thank him for and these stupid kids were putting us in a horrible situation. After this we've always stayed friends, in fact he's become one of my best friends, and there's always been this same assumption that he likes me; some people have even totally exagerrated saying he's in love with me bla bla bla because of the way he treats me compared to other girls. I never really let myself believe these things but they've made me quite weary of him at times.Only recently as he's been getting more attention from girls has there been a real issue. I have to say he's 'blossomed' and is reasonably attractive (He has a good sense of style etc). A big group of us went out a few nights ago and, I have to say, he looked hot. Today a friend of mine was cooing at him about how pretty and brown his eyes are :S and I felt so weird after!Now this is a total dilemma for me: I can't like this guy right? And yet I get jealous of attention he gets from other girls and i feel kind of possesive, as if he's one of my best friends so no-one else can have him. I know this is irrational and stupid, but I can't help it.If it turns out I do like like him lol what do I do? risk the whole friendship, and ruin this whole thing about him liking me, and just cause general drama???PS. I don't want to admit this last bit, but it's anonymous so what the hey :D! After this girl was cooing over him, I totally turned into major flirt. We had a bit of a play fight and o.m.g. i was quite turned on. PLEASE say this is just hormones/lack of male attention :S:SI hope ^^^^^ that made sense XD
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reader, IWantYou  +, writes (27 March 2009):
I'm in a similar situation. I refuse to admit that i'm in love with him, but the truth is that for the past 3-4 months we have connecting in such a way, i'm not ok if i dont talk to him everyday. I've introduced him to several of my friends and they talk so well with him that i feel jealous he is going to prefer them over me. The worse thing is that he has already prefered someone over me, his girlfriend for 6 years, but i feel more jealous of the ppl i introduced to him than his own girlfriend, cause he is MY friend, i want him to remain the same.
If i had the courage, i'd talk to him. I think you should try this... its the best way to deal with the situation.
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reader, MyName +, writes (14 October 2008):
MyName is verified as being by the original poster of the question So I've left it a while and have been further analysing the situation (probably not the best course of action lol!)
I've decided to just stay as normal and ignore my feelings for him because I just can't do that to the other girls that like him. I'm not brave enough to take him for myself and ignore the feelings of these other girls. Thank you everyone for your suggestions and help :) i just wish I was braver xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Ok. Im on the other side of this. This may get confusing. I have been friends with this girl for 10 years. We're gonna call her girl 1. I never used to get attention from girls... but for the last 4 years I have. I was talking to girl 1 about another female friend(Girl 2) kissing me and coming on to me recently. She instantly flipped and showed a lot of dislike towards the other friend(girl 2). Saying she's a whore and stuff like that. Me and girl 1 have been hanging out a lot lately... and now its time for me to lay it all out there. I guess my point is that if u know that you have some deep feelings for someone then you have to say something. Me and girl 1 have drifted apart many times in the last 10 years... but always seem to reconnect. I know it feels right for me to say something. You just have to do some soul searching and figure out if it feels right for you and go from there. Hope Everything works out either way for you.Anonymus : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): :-D You like him. Trust me, you definitely like him. Otherwise, you would not care if other girls were flirting with him in the least bit. You wouldn't even acknowledge that they were and if you did, you would make a joke of it with him. You wouldn't get jealous. Your jealousy is a sign of you wanting more than just his friendship.
I don't see what the problem is? He's a great friend of yours, right? This is awesome. I have a feeling that he likes you just the same! :-D From the sounds of it, he probably wants to be more than your friend.
You should definitely try and get your feelings across to him. This could be a great relationship for the both of you. You never know, you guys could be together and happy for a long time.
Good luck! :-)
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Talk to him about this. lol He is your best friend, after all. Ask him how he can tell if he like likes someone. I know that this might cos him to think that you like him, but you just might, and if you find that you don't, just say something like, "I enjoy being your friend."
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