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*lackHeart24
writes:Dear Cupid, I've returned once again with a new relationship and I'm extremely happy with him. I met him the same way I met my last boyfriend on an online game, but we live in the same state so we can go out. However now on the game we met on he's in a relationship and I know it sounds stupid but I get jealous when I see them on the game though I have him in real life.He's told me not to be jealous and just relax and trust him but coming from an upbringing where as a woman it's been instilled in me not to trust my man with ANY woman I can't help but get a tiny bit jealous. So what should I do?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Listen, he shouldn't be doing that while he is dating you.
What he's doing isn't a "virtual game girlfriend". He's roleplaying virtually with a REAL other woman. That crosses a real, honest-to-goodness line of disloyalty.
If it were a true "virtual game girlfriend", she'd be a Non-player-character generated by computer AI and not controlled by an actual real, breathing human. If you've ever played Skyrim, that's a good example of marrying a computer AI. If that were the case, it would be a different ballgame.
He needs to stop the role playing with other women, period. How many other guys (and girls) cyber sex with other people and then fall back on the excuse of "fantasy"?
Bottom line, if he's playing with another real breathing player, it's off-limits and you should tell him to either knock it off or you're breaking up with him, both virtually and in real life. End of story.
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reader, BlackHeart24 +, writes (22 August 2013):
BlackHeart24 is verified as being by the original poster of the question To be honest it's a little of both in the game their characters are married so their characters will flirt but they don't communicate outside the game
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Are the characters dating but he doesn't interact that way with the woman, or is he flirting/dating the woman online?
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reader, BlackHeart24 +, writes (22 August 2013):
BlackHeart24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe other woman he's with it's basically like an RP type of relationship and the woman is married in reality, but again being raised the way I was I trust no woman when it comes to my boyfriend, so I will either get protective or jealous so i dont know
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): He shouldnt say its just a game; after all you guys met through the same game. What if he starts getting to know her better and they like each other?
You need to tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and he should change.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 August 2013):
He is dating this other woman the same way he initially dated you. He is having an emotional affair. Surely what you had before you met in real life felt very real, or you wouldn't have met up. He doesn't get to have you in person and then have a separate girlfriend over the internet! There are people on here who have monogamous relationships with people they meet in games for years. Just because they aren't having sex doesn't mean they aren't in a relationship. He basically has two girlfriends right now.
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