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writes:I am in so much shock!!I've been with my loving boyfriend for almost two years. I just found pictures of him in several of my satin panties. He's positioned in different ways to show off the panties he's wearing. Some pictures actually have him wearing matching fishnet stockings as well. What is going on here?!!I trust him and vice versa. We love each other and he's a very manly type of guy. So, why my panties? I know he loves the feeling of satin and he gets really turned on when he sees me in them, but why on him?Please, someone help me. I've confronted him already and he says it's just a fetish he has and gets super turned on when I wear them. He says it has nothing to do with being gay or anything like that. I believe him, but for my own sake, I just need some reassurance that he isn't bisexual, gay, or anything other than heterosexual. I've done significant research online and many people on forums say it's normal, some say it might be confusion or being bisexual/gay, etc. I'm scared and I need a truthful, factual answer from a professional. Thank you!! Reply to this Question
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reader, tony_6bi9 +, writes (2 March 2012):
 well I can tell you I love wearing panties and married I'm not gay but I. am bicurious and even more than just curious. so im going to haves sex with another man/men. Yes I. do feel more aroused with men when im wearing them. my wife doesn't mind as long as I don't sex with other women. I. am now free to have sex with men. yes I am choosing to be bisexual since I've wanted to be with men for over 10 yrs & only got head once from a man now I want more. some choose bisexuality
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reader, Michieli  +, writes (27 August 2011):
Sex is a part of our subconscious. It is a world in which we behave in misterious ways.
I hace been married for twenty some years, I am heterosexual, i have had no mayor problem being fatheful, and I think I have expressed some of my sexual fantasies to my wife... and our sex life has had, let's say, the necessary evolution to fulfill most of my desires. Let's say we have kept our relation alive, we have bought sexual toys, sexy lingery, and have explored new ways to have sex, like anal fondelling.
Somehow, I have always had a need for more... more 'perversity', although sometimes I am afraid to really let myself flow, and express and perform certain fantasies.
I don't want to look for it with someone else, I respect fidelity, so I have explored masturbation
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): hi i wonder way somany europ ladys looks strange to see ter boyfriends wear pantys i live for many yers in asia i have tree relations al tree of the girls not have any problem i wear pantys thei al like every girl i meet in the past buy somtimes i nice sexy panty and i have to pose imidatly thei like to see me wear a panty the bulge in the pantys looks so sexy ter hands play whole evening on my panty with a happy end after girls try to understand we men we luve to look a lady or our wife in a sexy outfit some men of us want to give you the same a women in a sexy panty is more atractief than che is naked i feel my self more atractief if i have a nice panty on to present my girl ,every morning she decide wat undy or panty i take if she in a sexuel mood i have to wear a panty wat i want more come up girls we do it for you forget this 100 yers old big ugly boxershorts if i walk in a suppermarket and i joke with my girl tat i want to have a boxershort see say no way i not take in my bed anymore kom on men tel your girlfriend to change her mind ,ps way always a lady like to look at a sexy men in a sexy swimslip in the summertime on the beach is it not better to see her own friend in a sexy swim wear? i also post myself on a side with some of my nice pantys and i have many posityf commpliments of other ladys ,,way we always need to have a stamp we are gay im sory i 100perc hetero ,,the time a sexy string is for gay was 70yers back ,,goodluck
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reader, lawson +, writes (16 February 2011):
I recently asked a gay friend if he or any of his gay friends wore women's lingerie. His answer surprised me. He said that gay men are aroused and excited by the male gender, and that includes male garments. They don't related to women or their clothing in a sexual way. The reason you see lots of men who design women's apparal is because gay men relate to women in a non-sexual way--they feel the needs of real women without being encumbered with the need to have a relationship with them, and for that reason gay men and women often have extremely close non-sexual relationships that are lasting. A gay guy would sooner wear men's underwear that emphasizes or even exaggerates penis size. Wearing women's lingerie does absolutely nothing for a guy guy. He told me that he went on a all gay cruise, and never once saw a guy in panties or anything of that sort.
I told him that there are a lot of people out there that associate lingerie wearing men with gays. He laughed, and called them ridiculous people who don't understand the real world or sexual orientation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): i really wouldnt worry about the fact he finds panties or your panties a turn on , i have been dressing for years and have a partner that helps me make the most of my fetish , concidering the amount of abusive relationships out there just imbrace the fact yours is not (i assume its not) , and open your mind to something different you never know , you might like it too once the shock factor has disapeared ,. good luck and all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Well it's called a paraphelia. It's something that stimulates him and trust me it does not mean he is gay or bisexual. If you do a little more research most crossdressers are heterosexual. I have dated many women in my life that have told up front I wear the same satin panties. So you don't feel like the lone ranger go to Kmart website and look at the comment section on Joe Boxer satin bikinni panties you will see alot of couples like it. If it feels good and you trust and love him it can only enhance your sexual relationship because it will make him more expressive in the bedroom. Good Luck
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reader, mustangsally1965 +, writes (13 January 2011):
I've been waering womens nylon panties and stockings for over 40yrs and I'am 100% straight. I've been married to the same woman for over 35yrs and she is very OK with me wearing womens panties and intimates. I just retired from heavy construction and would wear panties to work.I don't see and have never seen the 'big deal' with men wearing womens panties.Its only fabric and if it makes you feel good then go for it.
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reader, Chj1972 +, writes (17 December 2010):
A lot of men for some reason like this. I'm sure he loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): crossdressing is very misunderstood, people fear it because they are ignorant & choose not to know what its all about, there is a lot of stereotyping & stigma attached to crossdressing which is mostly untrue.
i cant say a cd is gay or straight because everyone is different in personallity & reason for dressing in womans clothing but you will find most are straight, some do it for a sexual peasure(fetish) & some do it for the same reason as women they appreciate the clothes & the styles available which you dont get with mens clothes which are very dull compared to womens.
i myself am a crossdresser who is also straight & manly & has never been confussed about my sexuallity or my gender, crossdressing is not so much a fetish for me as i dont own any fetish clothes i only have high street clothes & you will also not find any make up, wigs, handbags as im a crossdresser not a transvestite & yes there is a difference in the two, give him a break its not easy for him, you`ve only had to deal with this for a short while but hes had to deal with this all his life & can feel a real curse sometimes because he probably cant stop dressing up, its who he is & hes still the same man you met
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): From as young as 11 years old I was dressing up in my mothers clothes. I found that wearing her silk and satin panties were very exciting for me and looked forward to the next adventure with the eagerness of an excited school child. Now I am in my forties and although I have shared my fetish with three different partners (two of which found it a turn on) the third just couldn't undestand why I liked to dress up. After this last reaction I went to seek some councelling to understand why I was like this and if it meant I was gay.Bisexual or any other persuassion but was reassured that in my case it was the fact that my mother had left the family when I was young and I needed to feel the closeness of her presence to reaasure me the world was a safe place!Now I am 47 years of age and I love weaing satin panties and am so envious of women having such a large and extenssive range of lingerie to wear when men have only a few choices. My now partner is unaware that I dress in my own female lingerie and as much as I want to tell her I feel that it may put her off me. We enjoy fantastic sex but I am left feeling I have missed out on some of the fun we could have had if only I could share my fetish with her!I have bought my own female clothes and shoes for some time now and am quite used to shopping for lingerie for myself and can't see what harm it does as this is a fetish lots of men have and dress up in the privacy of their own homes.By the way I am an ex soldier and am totally hetrosexual and happy:).
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): my wife one night laid out my clothes while i was in the shower. when i went into the bedroom i saw panties nylons and a mimi skirt. she wanted me to wear them so i put them on. as i was getting dressed i got the biggest hardon i ever had. when i walk out to the game room my wife said all my god you look so sexy. she got on her knees abd blew me right the panties. from that night on she dresses me up at least once a week for are very special night of sex. she has also video me and watches the video .it is special to her and special to me. so do what ever it takes to enjoy your sexy time together. happy but not gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): I have had a Silk and satin fetish since I was about 7. I used to wear one of my mothers silk skirts in bed. She caught me wearing it one night and said why are you wearing it, I didn't know what to say but she just tucked me in and said goodnight. My dad found me wearing the the skirt in bed one morning and wasn't so understanding he wanted to Burn it and called me a "Mag Harry" it's Irish slang for a Crossdresser. He took the skirt downstairs and was about to throw it on the fire and I started crying loudly and my mother pursuaded him not to burn it eventually but only if I shut up. I will never forget the feeling I had when he was about to throw it onto the fire it made me feel so sick I really loved that skirt and the feeling it gave me when I wore it. I am now in my late fifties and have some Satin skirts and panties I wear from time to time and some times I rip and burn them I think this is a reflection of the time my dad wanted to burn my first silk skirt. Alan. UK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Personally just find panties so much more comforting and besides with all the various colors, styles, materials, it is wonderful to wear such depending on mood that day or at that time
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): I have enjoyed wearing girls panties and stuff for a while..I used to feel guilty about it, but it is so much fun.I have told 3 girls about my fetish.The first time I told a girl that not only I like wearing girls undies but I had purchased an outfit of silkie panties and a camy top. And I showed it to her. She was very curious and asked me to put it on, which surprised me.It was always a private thing with me.I love the silkie feel and the badness of it.I can't describe the excitement after I put them on in the bathroom and came out to show her my silkies!!We had many fun filled lingerie nights.After that I met a wonderful girl whom I told the same thing to, and she was curious about it as well.Very accepting and she thought it was sexy.Well the 3rd girl I have told is now my wife of many years.I told her about my fetish before we were married, and she was just as curious and accepting as the others.But I have always worn store bought new undies in the past.But one time my wife took off her panties and stockings and told me to wear them! It was the most erotic time I had experienced.There is something about wearing your woman's undies that is so exciting.So now once in a while she does the same thing and it turns us both on still.It is not only the being bad factor, but also love for your lady.I don't like being tied up or handcuffed and stuff like that.To each their own, eh?But I do love the look and feel of silkies!!Please don't think he's gay, he just loves silk and cotton panties and being super naughty.
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reader, new_sunrise4u +, writes (2 September 2010):
Relax. Enjoy it! A lingerie fetish is a clear indicator that your guy is totally, unwaveringly heterosexual. Prior to the Internet, most if not all men who had this fetish probably thought they we were the only one.Slippery, sensuous lingerie helps a man learn more about how his body reacts to caresses. This has certainly made me a better lover. It has also taught me the joys of prolonged sex, and I now prefer to be kept "on the edge' for literally hours rather than instantly climaxing.Presently I am designing several garments for men to wear "under cover" all day long. These will lightly caress their bodies at work, while driving, shopping or relaxing. Wearing these garments will train a man to repeatedly bring himself to the edge without climaxing . . . until the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): I've been wearing nylon panties for years, starting way back when I was about 6 years old. In those days I used to have to sneak, used to wear the maid's nice silky panties, sisters and any others I could find. I have even grown some natural breasts (tho I don't know how it happened) that are a full A cup. Not too big, just about the size I like on a female. As I sit here answering your question I'm in just my bra and panties, (its a bit warm here).
I have no interest in any gay relationships, am perfectly straight. I think you should take heart in the fact that he particularly like yours and is very happy "staying at home" so to speak. As others have said, you might want to try and participate with him in some way, it might make a big difference in your relationship/love life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): he's not gay he just likes the feel of it i to wear it and im very much not gay love woman !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): My wife teased me with her stuff, would toss it to me. I just love the silky feel of her soft underwear and bra's. She caught me wearing silky panties and her bra. Ar first she was a litle worried, but now it's fun. And better yet - she knows I won't go out wesring her stuff or my panties. I don't want to get in a wreck, or arrested. I'm an at-home-Under dresser. She likes to cuddle when I'm wearing nylons.
You'll get used to him in your silkies, just start out slow !! Maybe leave the lights off at the begining and then progress. He is very embarssed and vulnerable right now, I still am...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): I love to see my husband wearing my panties so keep on its ok
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reader, Satinmodel  +, writes (7 August 2010):
Your boyfriend is a satin fetishist and I think is beautiful. I am a model of 25 tall and sexy and I wear for my husband of 65 every beautiful satin and silk full slips and panties, so where you see the problem? let him be yur fetisist at least he not wearin other womens panties. Go for and turn him on even more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Your boyfriend is a satin fetishist and I think is beautiful. I am a model of 25 tall and sexy and I wear for my husband of 65 every beautiful satin and silk full slips and panties, so where you see the problem? let him be yur fetisist at least he not wearin other womens panties. Go for and turn him on even more.
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reader, RicKCuk +, writes (2 August 2010):
It's harmless and not in any way an indication he is gay! My wife asked me some years ago to try on some nylons and when I felt them on my legs for the first time, I was hooked on the sensation and appearance! I wear Nylons and heels as well as an assortment of lingerie now all the time and it still never fails to arouse me and my wife! Have fun with it! Great sex too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I have loved panties and women's lingerie since I was around 12 or 13. I mainly love satin and lace but also enjoy leather and pcv etc. My favorite article is a teddy as I can completely fit inside if you know what I mean. I will wear panties but they have to be bikini or at least high rise. I like to envelope myself in them. I also enjoying taking pics of myself for my own personal pleasure. Me and my wife have come to an agreement. She does not like how certain lingerie constricts her so she likes gowns for the most part and she tells me if I like the other lingerie so much I can wear them. Of course she still dresses up in them for me. She also buys "presents" for me. The feeling is what turns me on. I am straight and have no intentions on turning. I tried that when I was younger and just was not my thing. It was after I started trying on lingerie for those about to ask. The only thing is I make sure I do not let anyone else find out that might ruin my life. My wife has been adament to teach me that so I only wear them behind closed doors or out in nature which is exilerating. Just not like normally every day in place of my own underwear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): Should you be concerned, maybe. I've had a panty fetish since I was 13 and it is very much tied into my sexual arousal. I thought for years that maybe I was gay since I didn't expect that "Normal" guys did this. As you know lots and lots of men have this fetish. Most guys on the net say they are not 'gay'. I don't fully buy it, I have fantisies of being with a guy and it's not because I wear panties. I just get turned on by the thought. I've never been with a guy, I don't find guys attractive, but still like to do it.
What do you have to loose. Hang with him as long as things are going well. Absolutely do not condem his act or try to change him. It's just going to make him move away. Also, wouldn't suggest you participating in it with him, unless he asks.
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reader, sietnap  +, writes (2 July 2009):
I love wearing my gfs panties. I'm wearing them now. I love her deeply; but I get an additional thrill from wearing her panties. No harm has come to our relationship so there is no reason it should not be ok for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): His wearing your panties is not the problem. Your attitude to it is.This does not suggest he is gay, but that he is probably more sensitive then most beer swilling, demanding, blokes.learn how to use it, and keep him as feminin as possible. he will most likely do or at least help with the housework, nuture your kids, and welcome you taking control of the finances. These guys are normally a lot more sensitive to your needs then those who are not inclined this way. For many more reasons they make better husbands, and better lovers.Be smart and reasearch it before you loose himMuch love and best wishes to you both.regardsLeon
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Its no big deal. I'll only date women who were satin panties I love the way they feel.my wife now that's all she weres is satin panties I rub them every night befor I go to sleep and if she's out of town. Sleep with lots of them even wearing them to bed. She knows about my fetish but she has no clue how bad it really is. I need to feel satin panties everyday I'm not going to get into any more details just be glad that there your panties. I'm glad I found this site. And don't get mad at him when you find out what else he's doing with your pantied
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Hi, It's not really a big deal. It will become a big deal if he has to hide it forever. I have been wearing panties,bras,slips,hose,corsets,etc for over 30 yrs. My wife is very accepting and even buys me panties on my birthday! We play dress up often and have lots of fun. I am very masculine and normal. Been married for 22yrs and have kids...very normal life. But we like to wear sexy lingerie...big deal. Have fun with it and like other posts suggest...try sharing a secret of yours with him. He is not going to stop wearing them so either get used to it and integrate it in your life or move on to another man...who you can be sure will have his own secrets...possibly water sports or something really wierd!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): Its just something that he likes to do. I too love wearing womens underwear and i only like women. It is just something he loves to do. Help him with it and he will thank you for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Don't worry about it. I am a very masculine straight guy and have been sneaking into satin panties for years. I am a construction worker and 100% straight. They just feel really good and are a big turn on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Can't say much about the picrure thing. But the satin feel is very compfy, guys underware is just plain and not sexy feeling. My wife is kinda open, she dosn't mind sharing panties, she wears mine cause they are more comfortable for her. She commented that hers look better on me, and likes to stroke the satin when I wear them. It'll be a while, but she'll let me wear her nylons and bra's soon, can't wait for it. Have your hubby wear them with you, not in the closet. I'm sure picture taking will stop.
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reader, jessica2585 +, writes (30 March 2009):
My boyfriend and I like to go to the drive in movies (hard to find now), one cool evening, we were about to leave, and he asked "why aren't you wearing a skirt", so, I simply
asked him why he wasn't wearing one, at first, he said that it was too cool out, and then, changed his story and said he didn't have any nylons...well, that was all I needed, I marched him up to my room and put
an underwire bra (rose color I think, with back closure), and a nice pair of panties, with embroidered flowers, on him. I put some lip gloss and blush on him, and, with his long hair in a more feminine style, "she" was kind of pretty (I called him "she" a lot, kept her in line), a little mascera and eye shadow, and her make up was complete. I helped her put flesh colored nylons on (the shimmery kind), a silkey mini slip with lace (my "girlfriend" has nice legs), a silk blouse (a little bit see through, you can see "her" bra) and a silkey short skirt, a pair of my sandals, and "she" looked gorgous!
I drove, in a way, I played the boy this night. Waiting in line at the drive in, I made him take his pants and shirt off, revealing her blouse (and bra) and skirt, and those sexy legs. As we approached the ticket booth, we could both see, that the same pretty girl with a high stool and short skirt and beautiful legs (actually, I deliberatley got in her lane)that he frequently flirted with would give us our tickets. I had unbuttoned her blouse when fondling "her" breasts and nipples, and had her skirt up to her waste,and so, covered up with my sweater. When the cute ticket taker asked for the fee, I asked "her" to get the money from her purse (it was mine), when she handed the money to me, I "accidentley" pulled my sweater off her, revealing her opened blouse and underwire bra (the bra really worked, nice little cleavage), and her gorgous, sexy legs. What a turn on, she just smiled.
For the entire night, she was my girlfriend, I sucked and fondled her breasts, and fucked her with my strap on.
Almost, I was going to have her suck some boys cocks and have her butt fucked by a few...maybe next weekend.
Jessica
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): My husband and i went to see " Cat on a hot tin roof "
It is a play set in the deep south of America and features a scene in which the leading lady spends a lot of time in her slip.
Afterwards, my husband asked me if i would begin to wear slips, so i agreed. I found a company in derbyshire that make gorgeous polyester satin full slips. Our love life improved greatly. Men do love to see women in slips, and i suppose it is no surprise that some men like to wear them in private themselves. I feel that you now doubt your boyfriends manliness. There is no need! The time to worry would be if he became obsessed and wished to wear womens clothes outside the house. I have a friend whose boyfriend decided that he wanted to actually change gender, but that is not very common. If you are worried, just ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): dont be alarmed,my girlfriend likes when i wear hers, and i have come to enjoy the feel and the excitement that she wears them next to the most sensual part of her body, i dont think its anything more than a sexual turn on because there your most intimate thing.
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reader, bikini boy +, writes (5 March 2009):
i have been wearing panties for over 30yrs. now i wear panties 24/7 i wear lowrise string thongs 75% of the time the other 25% i wear lowrise string bikini panties there is not a man's pair of underwear that comes close to what a nylon or satin panties feels like to have on iam not goy or bi-sexual iam married and my wife is ok with me wearing panties and yes every now and again i wear pantyhose to i think that there should not be so many stero type people that only see black white and grey i will bet that any of you guys that think that panties on a man makes him gay or bi or a faggot should try wearing a pair of panties and i bet that hay will be sporting a hard buldge as soon as thay slip the panties on and feel just how soft and satiny thay are and then tell the world about how that fee but i also bet that these guys dont have the ball thay think thay have .
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): LOL.. this question is great... If you have a good guy who treats you nice and doesn't cheat, then underwear is the least of your problems. Wouldn't mind it myself, because it would mean I get to buy more sexy underwear, a set for him and a set for myself. If it makes him comfortable, then sure, why not. I nice underwear, so why shouldn't a man. No problem at all. Most gay men I know, like male things, not girly knickers. It's only clothes, not his sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Of cause you will find it difficult to unerstand why a man of great masculinity wishes to wear ladies underware, it is often the more masculin, more powerful men who have this "fetish" for that is what it is, a fetish.My husband wears ladies nickers and stocking simply because they make him feel nice, he loves it when I buy lingery for him and I love the fact that he is maan enough to admit to his fetish.WE are bourn into a world of rules and regulation, not made by us but by others, men must always wear cotton or nylon briefs whilst women get the soft, silky, frilly wear.its not really fare, is it.I like to feel my man laying next to me, I like to run my nails along his nylon clad legs and feel his manhood beneath soft panties, am I weard or just accepting.I truly believe that all men and women shoulod do as they wish, providing no other person is hurt and if you man likes to wear feminin undergarments. good on him, he is in tough with his sexuality far more than those musle bound beefcakes flexing their muscles on the beach.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): HAHHAAHAHA you've got to laugh
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): i also am male love satin panties love women in em i also manly type not gay 1000 % STRAIT but sometimes i also like to try on dont know why 1reason is the soft feel but i keep this secret also deep down i know womens panties shud be on women ,tell ur bf loads of places now cater for mens satin lingerie and lots of different stuff similar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): I think what he is trying to say is that you look great in your panties and he wants to look like you. By wearing them he feels sexy and beautiful like you do. I would not worry about it. If he did not care for you he would not do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): Actually, You can find the answer in google. i found it.
He is not gay if he says so, i used to wear them too.
i dont know why, and im not gay at all, havent imagined to be with a guy, iiaccckkk!!
Love girls, love em in satin panties, if your boyfriend or husband(whatever)likes them let him wear them, but just yours, hell be very happy to be accepted and the fact that you accept him for what he is.
Fetish or not everybody has 1, foot,stockings,bras, etc.
maybe you have 1.
I wont worry about that at all.
I can bet anything on that, he is not gay if he says so, and confronting someone, because of a fetish need to be carefully handled cuase you can make him to feel frustrated and humilliated, that wont be nice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): just because a man wears panties does not make him gay i myself have been wearing satin and silk panties for over 30yrs and i only date women and i have never had such good sex and stamina i can do without them but the feel is just outa this world why should the women have all the sexy comforts let him be himself and enjoy it and join in you will love the results.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): It is extremely likely that he is like most males that wear panties or have a satin fetish... he's straight. I've been wearing satin panties for well over ten years. I have only dated women, I've only ever been turned on by women, the thought of being attracted to a guy just doesn't work for me. But as one person who replied pointed out, people who are gay tend to be attracted to masculine things, NOT female. The gay cross dressers are the minority of that population. Just as they are the minority in the cross dresser population/panty fetishists.
Not to mention when it comes to female clothing you get to wear all kinds of clothes that were once considered taboo by the female population. Wearing jean pants for example, maybe a hundred years ago your husband would worry that YOU were gay for wearing his clothes. Nowadays they even make female underwear to mimic male underwear with the "boyshort" cut. I assure you, your underwear is far more comfortable than the choices we men receive.
If you're boyfriend does have this fetish and you can accept him with it, then I would urge you to support him. Men can be extremely sensitive with this. If you simply can't handle him wearing panties, then I would recommend you find a different partner. I'm with someone now that fully accepts me for who I am, both when I wear her panties and when I am the "masculine" guy that the rest of society sees. Bringing you into our inner world is a huge step for us. Some men are more comfortable with it than others and worry that they will drive partners away if they tell them, so that's probably why he never mentioned it. I told my girlfriend before we even started to date about my fetish and what I like to do. You'd be amazed at the emotional support you can give another person by not treating them as if they are some disgusting deviant, like many people seem to take this fetish for. Though,I cannot figure out why, it's no different than breaking any other general cultural norm, like that experienced in the Civil Rights movement of the U.S. We can't all live in a box forever.
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reader, DianeInNova +, writes (26 December 2008):
95% of crossdressers are hetosexual! Don't get bent out of shape or push him away. Try indulging him and see where it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): Your boyfriend may very well not be gay, bisexual or hoping to experiment with other men. I have been wearing panties and slips ever since I became sexually aware of my own body. Simply put, the material feels wonderful against our skin. The available cuts are a sensual change from the cold, function only underwear men have available. He probably feels very sexy when he wears your panties and stockings. I would suggest that you take your love for him and experiment with this new found delight. Take him shopping for his own. Rub him through the silk of his new panties. You would become such a rare treat for him that he would never wander away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Hello. Anytime you are in doubt and have a question about this fetish ask yourself this: What sounds more strange and gay to you? A man that has a fetish for guys underwear and clothes or a man that has a fetish for womens underwear and clothes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Satin Panties:
It has nothing to do with being gay. Might just be he likes to feel the closest thing to your sexy parts. I am 100% straight and enjoy the same thing. It really turns me on just thinking about where the've been...next to your sweet spot.
My girlsfriends like when we play while I wear their satin apnties. Really gets me excited! And they can tell. You might wanna try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): He is not bi or gay / maybe a little curious if any thing.
It is getting very normal for a guy to try on womens panties and lingerie because we like how it feels on you women.
We are only curious to how it feels on our skin too.
It does feel nice.
I love to wear silk and lace , it feels great on my manhood , and my body feels great with a teddy on.
Buti have never had a gay thought.
I do how ever think of what you women do for us guys and wonder what it would be like to have done to us what we do to you, but by a girl.
Thats why we think of doing things you girls do.
Pretty simple hey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): dont worry at all ,16 or 17 years ago my girlfriend made me put on her pantys and WOW i loved it , over time she had me trying on bras and all sorts of her lingerie, well long story short we are marryied , she still not sure about the whole thing , i am not gay by any means at all!! i asked her why she had me try her things on , her answer was to see if i would do it for her, yes its a little differrent , but the right size and style of panties are very comfortable and supportive and no chaffing even in the hot summer .
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reader, npb +, writes (3 December 2008):
He's normal i'm sure. I am very much the same way I feel 100% str8 yet I love wearing womans panties. I have been doing it for nearly 20 years. I'm sure you would agree you feel good and sexy then you wear silky sexy panties and things. Well I and your boy friend feel the same way. Myself love the tight fit and silky or sheer feel. My g/f loves me wearing them and loves seeing me in them. I suggest you keep loving him and have some fun with it. Set up an evening out and include a stop at Victoria Secret with him.
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reader, mrsB +, writes (27 November 2008):
Hi ya!
Everyone has diffrent fantasies-
I actually would like my husband to be more adventurous!
Why dont you accept his fetish and join in, and tell him one of yours?
I bet it would really spice up your sex life!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): This is normal. I get turned on by satin panties and have even put them on before. It is more of a sensory issue that him being gay/bisexual. He just enjoys the feel of satin. Probably relates to something that he experienced/saw when he was a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): After 11 years of marriage I am getting divorced my new girl is open minded and I wear satin panties and basques and stockings - she loves it and we have amazing sex - she squirted for the first time with me - I am not gay just why not share sexy clothing and be sexy. Try a strap on with him and loosen up cos he will be an even better partner - panties dont make you gay just sexyyyyy - have fun x
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reader, CRUZ9191  +, writes (22 November 2008):
I know you might be worried but really , dont be!.
I have the same thing.
When i am alone at home i wear satin or lacey silk panties because thay feel so nice and because its the closest to a women without her being there i can be.
I am 27 and i do wear sexy lace panties , yes it is a fetish but i am not gay or even bi.
Its the feel of them and i have looked on web sites about it cause i wasnt sure why i did it .
I dont think it is fair that women judge us blokes for it , we dont have the selection that you do and it would be very imbarrassing if we went to a lingerie shop to buy for our selves.
i think our girls should be more appreciative of our sexuality and us liking nicer things just as you girls like them.
Imagine you girls only had grandma nickers to wear every day and us guys had lace or silk or satin and it turned you on so much you wanted to wear it in secret.
He is fine , beleive me.
He just wants to feel it and feel free for a while , and you should take advantage of it and explore your sexual desires.
Regards Soft touch xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): You don't have a worry in the world. Like your boyfriend I used to slip into my wife's panties whenever I could. She had no idea. After some years I decided it was time to introduce her to my fetish. I did it gradually over several months. In the end she was entirely accepting and today we enjoy frequent "panty play". It's been a terrific enhancement to our sex lives.
I now have my own panties and only occasionally do I wear my wife's. Her only complaint has been, "I think you have enough panties." So I moved on to garter belts and hosiery. She still rolls her eyes at that, but she accepts and enjoys it.
Trust me when I say your boyfriend is not gay. I'm most definitely not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2008): Relax......... you love to feel pretty so dose he.I have been wearing panties for years now,and I love it. He is not gay .He just wants to feel sexy ,mens clothing is so rough and yuk.but you girls have a shit load of stuff to make you feel better about yourself but guys have nothing at all.So share and go buy him some that you would like to see him in . He will be a verry loyaland happy puppy.and you will love the rise he gets for you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Hey,
Just wanted you to know, i am married and have a beautiful wife, we wear panties together because it turns us both on.
satin feels amazing for some guys and to assume he is a bisexual or gay is jumping the gun. if you have talked to him and you really believe dep down inside that there is this trust between you and him, then help him explore his fetish so it is not so taboo. you could be suprised at the fun things it could lead to in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): It's ok. I have this fetish too and I'm far away from being a gay or bi. Don't tell him to never do it again, as he still will. Just accept it as it's harmless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): I know where your coming from since I found my guy looking at a website delanydecolleur.com for satin panties. I asked him why he was looking and he just likes looking at shiny soft satin. I'm going to go buy some satin sheets and satin lingerie, panties and rock his world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I don't think this makes him gay. I little weird yes, but not gay. I think some men have a fetish with panties. I had one guy buy me 30-40 dollars worth of panties before.. just b/c he wanted me to pose for him. IDK?? anyways I wouldn't worry about it too much. if it really bothers you, just ask that he burns the pics and promises to never do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Hey,
I can totally understand your shock as I would feel the some but I don't think it makes me gay/bi or wierd. People have different fetishes some not every nice some ok and some great. But them who I am to say some aren't very nice. I really wouldn't worry but make sure you don't make him feel uncomfortable, wrong or dirty about this.
You could also talk to him about your fetishes is you have any.
Good luck and I hope my answer helped.
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