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writes:Ok, Well I'm 16 years old. I havent had a girlfriend for about 3 years. In that time ive kissed about 8 girls passionately, but about 6 of them have come in the last 3 months, and 5 of them when either i was drunk or the other girl was drunk. I know i probably shouldn't drink, but everybody does it...anyway im still a virgin, and i havent done anything beyond kissing with a girl. I hang out with a group of about 7 lads, and all of them have at least gone past the stage i am on at the moment. I am really worried that I am getting too far behind. Also,I was also gutted to find out the other day, that this girl I have loved for about 4 years has had sexual contact, and shes 15. she really didnt seem like the type of person to go for it because shes a really intelligiant, and sensible girl. but she is really beautiful. so i feel a bit gutted because now all chances of me being her first have gone. so really, i could do with advice on 3 things.1.Am I really falling behind2.what can i do to get past the stage i am on at the moment, 3.how should i react to the girl ive loved for years,having sexual contact. by the way, the chances of me getting with this girl are virtually zero. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): 1. It is not a race. And some of those guys could be lying or exaggerating and you the only honest one.
2. Try to think about people rather than just the sexual side of the relationship.
3. If the chances are zero anyway, try to forget her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): I was you at 15. Let me tell you how this really works. This may make you feel absolutely sick to your stomach, but it's the ugly truth about your future with women.You're holding off on sex because you want a girl who holds off too. IT WON'T WORK. The vast majority of girls won't respect your chastity like that. They won't understand how retroactive jealousy hurts you. They won't respect you for feeling hurt and not being able to stop feeling it. They'll usually think you just choose to have a problem with sexually experienced girls out of self-righteous malice. So they won't limit themselves worrying about what some future partner they haven't even met might think years from now. They'll just think, "If a man loves me then he'll accept me for whatever I've done." If it doesn't bother them now, then it has no right to bother their future man either. That's the logic. If you keep it in your pants now, girls in the future might be glad you didn't screw everything that walks before you met them. But they usually won't think it entitles you to a girl with any shorter of a history than if you'd been a total male slut.Does this sound awful to you? Yeah, it does to millions of guys. But our feelings don't matter when it gets in the way of sexual freedom. So get wise and get used to it now.
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reader, A dodgy bloke +, writes (25 April 2009):
 I'm 16 two, I'm in the same position aswell, no girlfriend for a while, no sex. I have recently changed who i hang about with and some of them are more 'sexual' if you catch my drift. But not once have i heard them boast about it, so its no big deal. GEtting by this stage, when you kissing a girl (this worked for me at a party) just start to feel her up, dont be to direct, if she does it back then your in. It develops from there. To deal with the girl you like. Like the girl before said, if you know her tell her how you feel, but if not maybe get to know her a bit better. Im in the same position BUT she is with someone else. Hope i helped dude..
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reader, poisonivylust  +, writes (25 April 2009):
you are not falling behind. did you know about 79% of guys leave high school never going out on a date? so all this talk about having to lose you vcard by the time you graduate is a bunch of bull. I just turned 17 a few weeks ago and have been sexually active since i was 15 so theres not much room for me to talk but from a high school girls point of view, it doesnt matter if the guy has or hasnt had sex yet. but if you want to get pass this stage you are on find a girl you like, get to know her, and once you both feel comfortable around each other and trust each other talk about safe sex or just messing around. and about the girl youve loved for 4 years, its life and you have to get through it. if she knows who you are, you could try and tell her your feelings. if she doesnt know who you are, you just have to move on and find someone else to be your girl
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reader, poisonivylust +, writes (25 April 2009):
you are not falling behind. did you know about 79% of guys leave high school never going out on a date? so all this talk about having to lose you vcard by the time you graduate is a bunch of bull. I just turned 17 a few weeks ago and have been sexually active since i was 15 so theres not much room for me to talk but from a high school girls point of view, it doesnt matter if the guy has or hasnt had sex yet. but if you want to get pass this stage you are on find a girl you like, get to know her, and once you both feel comfortable around each other and trust each other talk about safe sex or just messing around. and about the girl youve loved for 4 years, its life and you have to get through it. if she knows who you are, you could try and tell her your feelings. if she doesnt know who you are, you just have to move on and find someone else to be your girl
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