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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend always tells me how much he loves me and we will be together forever but I found some messages he has sent to other girls when he's drunk saying they're hot or look good or just asking to chat. I did trust him but now I'm having doubts, I'm worried he will cheat when he's drunk. I'm worried about asking him about the messages because he will think I don't trust him and go mad for reading the messages. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous818  +, writes (13 July 2010):
I definitely agree with antiasexual on this one.
But maybe theres more to it. How long have you been together? If its been for a long time then maybe he feels something is missing in your relationship. If he is doing this only when he is drunk maybe you should talk to him about how much he drinks because people who drink tend to act differently when they are intoxicated and usually that problems worsens. So, you should confront him about his alchoholism first, talk to him about why he drinks so much and does he feel that anything is missing in your relationship.
A similar incident happened with my girlfriend. She snooped through my email and social networking inboxes and found messages from other girls but they were from before the time we started going out. She took great offense to it and to this day she gets mad at it. She always tells me why I didn't tell her and my response was simply that I wasn't quite ready to tell her about that yet. But anyways from my experience snooping around really isn't good. Maybe its a good temporary solution for trust but long run it only hurts your trust more. My girlfriend still goes through all my texts and inboxes even though I have never cheated on her and I honestly hate it because I treat her like gold yet she assumes I'm going to cheat on her. Just try to be more trusting but if the behavior persists, especially when he's drunk, leave him.
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