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writes: i have a question that is really confusing me. why would anyone want to finger someone? or have oral sex. it is discusting. tell me why people want to do this. how can they bear fingering someone?!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Given where the area of sensation for a women is - why would you want to be fingered right up inside where there is hardly any sensation - only discomfort if it is too brutal. Further more taking it from behind totally misses the area of pleasure and why anyone would want to have it in the anus god only knows.
What can be better than face to face, body to body, genital to genital etc. in the way we were made for the maximum pleasure - thats what I call making love. Why would I want to put a penis in my mouth!! Or kiss my partner after he has been slobbering around down below. Maybe some people like this - but I don't understand it
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): hi Dr pete. i am the person that asked this question.
thanks for the advise but how did u know i was 14? write
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A good guess ;) Just kidding - I noticed you put your age in another question you asked.
On another note generally on oral sex, applying traditional psychosexual development (which some of the hypothesis have long been disproved) using Freud's psychoanalystic approach it could be argued that those who indulge in oral sex (or even to smoke, or over-eat) do so due to some kind of trauma suffered (e.g. over protected) during the first 18 months of their life. This trauma caused an erogenous fixation on the mouth, where it should have passed to the next stage of development. Through Freudian psychoanalysis the problem can be "cured" in a few years, or so. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): I also found oral sex disgusting.... why would you want to stick some guys penis in your mouth? and why would you want his head to be "down there?" As you get older your mind my change, but at such a young age it is normal to be confussed. Even though you may never "love" oral sex, if you love the person your with it won't matter! Good Luck Sweetie
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 Honey, I think you are trying to grow up too fast. Dismsiss these thoughts and allow yourself to grow up a little slower. When the time is right (if ever) it will not seem disgusting to you then.
Good luck sweetie.
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reader, joanna44 +, writes (22 May 2006):
 if you love someone you want to do everything possible to please them and make them happy, and its a close act between to people that show there love for each other. if u find someone u truely love you'll want to be that close to them. x x
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reader, shania +, writes (22 May 2006):
 I think in some cases if you love someone then you dont mind giving oral sex....even if you dont really enjoy it....its to please the person you love and feel an emotional bond with.On the other hand...you dont have to do anything that you dont want to do.Everyone has different preferences,but like what Dr pete said...you are only 14 so you probably would think like that.
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reader, bonym +, writes (22 May 2006):
 My dear I have often questioned this myself and as a Christian people think that I am some sort of Bible bashing freak and dont believe in fun, which is not the case at all!!! But for me personally, oral sex is one of the biggest turn offs that anyone could mention! But I am of the opinion that everyone has their own preferences, some may find that sort of thing pleasurable but I dont. However as you get older you will discover what sort of sexual activities you like and dont like, but remember everyone is different so what you find disgusting is someones idea of pleasure and vice versa. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): hi Dr pete. i am the person that asked this question. thanks for the advise but how did u know i was 14? write back on this page
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2006): I think at the age of 14 it is understandable why you find this confusing and disgusting. I think you are trying to grow up too quickly, in time, when you become more comfortable with your own body, you'll come to understand why people do, and enjoy, the things you have mentioned.
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