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anonymous
writes:I an married to a 60 y/o man with ED. I am 44. We have toys and he uses them. We live in a travel trailer. We have this friend and we have been intimate with her like 4 years ago. We were swingers but we got out the lifestyle. We both agreed. To much headache and hassle. She came and stayed the weekend, like she has done many times before. She respects that we are out of the lifestyle. She and I have become very close with no sex involved, like sisters. Well the last time she stayed my husband wanted sex from me while she was sleeping 3 feet away. I said no and he has been mad since. I asked him what he was doing, his answer was "trying to get some". Mind you he has ED and he uses a strap on. FYI: I dont like the strap on. Strap on or not I wasn't going to have sex with her there. I don't want anything to do with that anymore. I told him he was more than welcome to get back in the lifestyle if he wanted to but I am out for good. The next day I asked what was he thinking. He had no answer and was s mas at me. I told him if I was her I would have felt disrespected and would have left and never spoke to us again or asked what do you think you are doing even tho this is your house and all. The proper was to do what I think he was trying to do is to ask us for a 3some and I would have said no. We got out the lifestyle because he was insecure in and out the lifestyle. I didn't want the added hassles and arguments we would have after we went to a party or entertained a couple. Am I so wrong that he has not uttered more that 3 words to me in 3 days. I told him he was wrong and that I was not going to let him throw me in a situation like that. I felt disrespected. I feel so strange and hurt. I know I didn't do anything wrong but I feel like I used to when we were in the lifestyle. As if nothing I do is right. In all this I decided to not have her over for the weekend anymore. She is a lovely woman and we are really good friends and she would never disrespect me but to keep down confusion I'll back away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. Still not talking. He apolygised to our friend.
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