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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this lad, and we got on so well it was unreal. Pretty soon we were ringing each other and we went on a date, which went really well. He treated me like his girlfriend, doing really cute things and stuff. But then after, he went cold on me, barely talking and not asking me to ring. I just thought 'get stuffed then', and i was upset, but i got over it. I got into this other lad, and when the previous lad saw comments the new lad had left me, he must have had a change of heart. He said he backed off cos he felt things had moved too fast, and he needed chance to get to know me, he'd acted like an idiot and he was really sorry and all this. So i forgave him, and we carried on as before. We arranged to meet this friday, and he's been really nice to me, but i've found comments from another girl who he calls babe, and hes left her a comment saying shes sexy. I feel so used, and so nasty because of how i treated the other boy. Yet he seemed so sincere! What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007):
It sounds like this guy didn't really know what he wanted. From what you have written, it seems like maybe he started to go off you but by seeing you with someone else he got jealous and wanted you back. It is quite common for people to get jealous in this way.
I would say that if this guy saw you as his girlfriend then he wouldn't have been so quick to change his mind and stop pursuing you. If a guy is in to a girl then he will make this very clear. With regards to the other girl, perhaps they are just friends and are innocently flirting, maybe there is more - you are best to judge that.
This guy has said he acted like an idiot and is sorry and you have forgiven him so I think unless there is more to these comments then you should give him that extra chance to prove himself to you and go out on Friday and enjoy yourselves. I would say to look out for him going cold or distant to you again and if you see this then perhaps this relationship is not meant to be for you. I hope it works out well for you :)
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