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*ayley37
writes:Please help,i moved in with my boyfriend 6 months ago and he is the love of my life,Im 39 hes 42.We have both been married and are both divorced.I met him a year ago and for the first time in my life i knew id met the man i wanted to spend my life with.He asked me to move in with him after 6months together.We lived abt 70 miles from each other so i would only get to see him at weekends.Everything was fine when i moved in but after abt 2 months he said he wasnt sure what he wanted,but we carried on and things seemed to go ok.He did a few things i found very hurtful,i caught him on some dating sites and he was constantly on facebook.Also his phone would never stop.I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said no that he wouldnt do that and that if was hed tell me and i do believe him on that one.Anyway he started to become distant on me and the more i asked him what was wrong the less he'd tell me.In the end he told me he had money worries and that he might have to sell his house.He said he needed space to sort his head out and that if i stayed he would take it out on me as i was the closest to him.I found this so upsetting and have moved out back to where i come from,i hate it,I miss him so much.I have spoken or texted him everyday and he just says to give him time to sort his probs out and that he hasnt given up on us.What do i do,i feel the need to constantly text him which my best friend says not to.I love this man with all my heart and i want him back,so please dont say give up on him.What do i do????
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 If he's been on dating sites and on Facebook like you have described then there's a good chance it's not just a money issue. He is probably just unsure about your relationship. I know it hurts, but give him space. There's not really much else you can do. Like Laura said, texting too much might come off too needy. Tell him you are here for him, but otherwise don't contact him. Give him a chance to see life without you again. He may just realize that he doesn't enjoy life without you.......
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 What if his heart has turned cold ? Do you still want him ?
Your constant texting him will make you appear clingy . The more you text him ,the more he will run away from you.
All you can do now is to sit tight and if he does not come back for you , it means that he does not belong to you .
You need to move on.
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