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writes: I am a 22 year old man, and have been married for 2 years and been with her for 4 years. We have been through our ups and downs, some more drastic, such as me talking to other women, and some things like that, but never sleeping with someone. Our marriage was sort of arranged from our parents side, but still served as a mutal aggreement between us also. I have known this other lady at work for over a year, and have become close to her in the last month, and this last weekend we had kissed and shared some intimate feelings that were unspoken. but not sleeping with her. All i can think about is her, and what went on. I have never felt that with anyone i have been with in my life including my wife, i have always felt that me and my wife have no connection besides our "friendship" cause thats how i have always felt! I dont know what to do ?!?!?
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reader, Shelleyscott +, writes (1 August 2006):
Its clear theres definitely something missing from your marriage. You were very young when you wed and perhaps you wern't emotionally mature enough for it to last. Theres a big problem here in the fact that you are very attracted to someone else and experiencing feelings that you have never had. Does this other woman have the same feelings? Would you like a proper relationship with her? Can you imagine separating from your wife and assessing your feelings? These are the questions you need to ask yourself and go with what feels right. Most people marry because of the intense love and adoration they have for each other and that they can imagine being with this person for ever. If you didn't feel like this then i'm not surprised this has happened. Good luck!
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reader, looneytune +, writes (1 August 2006):
Dont do anything. Pour your heart and soul into your marriage and leave that other woman alone. Dont drag your wife through the mud. Suggest counseling...anything to try to work things out without having the distraction of another womanh in the picture. Your wife would be terribly hurt if she knew that you even kissed and shared intimate feelings with someone else. Do the right thing...work on what you commited to and try to make that what it was...and then if that does not work...Be a man and let her go before getting someone on the side. Dont do that to her...that will destroy her for years to come. Best advice coming from a woman who has seen the hurt that cheating causes.
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