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writes: My ex and I broke up, and I haven't spoken with my ex for a month, and it's been really hard, although I am getting stronger, but last night I had a dream that felt so real and I saw him and he wanted to get back with me, and when I woke up it brought back a lot of painful emotions that I tried my best to overcome, I woke up asking myself why, why did he leave me, it was so perfect.Before we'd speak every single day, and now we never do, and I don't even want to as it hurts, plus he hasn't even bothered contacting me, to find out how i AM, nothing, apparently I used to be his soulmate and his angel and I wish i knew if he missed me, or regrets doing what he did to me!I hate him so much, and I wish I never met him, and that he never said that he loved me, and wanted to marry me.I've gotten advice from this site before, and it's helped, but I'm ok one second and the next I'm not, and when my mind wonders it hurts so much.I've deleted his numbers, packed my memories and stuff away, written things down. Trying to hang out with friends, but when I'm with my friends i'm perfect but when i think, I remember those times where he'd know I was going out, and he'd text me saying I love you, and I see that I don't get that anymore. I dont get anymore goodnight msg's.I feel all alone, and hurt.I don't feel ready to meet new people or going out, I dunno how, this was my first, serious relationship, and I thought I was lucky to have found my soulmate.What can I DO?
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reader, Sunshine7 +, writes (21 June 2006):
Hi! I know exactly how you feel too. My ex - the love of my life and my soulmate - broke up with me six weeks ago because he was 'confused', which I later found really meant 'I have cheated and want to be with the person I cheated on you with.' I was gutted, so hurt and angry, then upset. I've cried everyday since. The best bit of advice I can give you is to not bottle up your feelings. Talk about it with your friends, family or anyone and let all your emotions come out. You'll see that after a while, just as I've found, you'll start enjoying life and going out and the bad days wont seem as bad, and you'll have more good days.
At the end of the day the best revenge really is to put the past in the past and live for today and not let what this guy has done ruin your future.
Take each day as it comes and don't think about getting with anyone new or getting back with him and if you feel like crying, do, it will make you feel better. The way I feel now is free, it sounds silly but I do. I don't feel alone. I've surrounded myself with good friends and have realised that there's a great life to be had without him. Give it time and tears and I'm sure you'll be feeling the way I'm feeling soon. Take care :D
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reader, lauxx +, writes (21 June 2006):
 hey hunni, my ex has totally done the same, he split up with me for a reason not under my control, he doesn't txt ring or anything anymore! i have now found he is back with his ex! just have to pull yourself together, and be strong, i cry all the time as we only split up a month ago, but i used to cry and not get angry towards him and i just couldn't find it in me to be angry. i think about him every day!! the best thing to do is keep yourself busy!! it will heal as time goes by!! yeah u should go out with your friends let your hair down, dont let him see that he has hurt you, men dont have feelings like us, i wish they did but they dont!! dont put yourself down by not doing owt!! get out let your hair down, look your best then he will see what he is missing!! if you need a chat message me direct. good luck chic xxxxxx
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 You poor little bird, I so sympathise with you, it sounds like you could do with one or two trusted pals to come around with a good dvd and a bottle of wine.. Trust me, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and I PROMISE this time next year - tho it seems a long way off, you will be feeling much better - or perhaps agonising over someone else!!And in ten years, you will smile at the memories of the good times you had, perhaps even wondering what it was that attracted you to him in the first place!!It is what makes the world go around, and if you look at this website, you will see so many similar heartaches - indeed some much worse!Good Luck, and let me know when you fall in love again.. you sound sweet and sensitive, so it is probably just around the corner!Kindest regards,Snowbird
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reader, Eddiezbabygurl67 +, writes (21 June 2006):
 hey, its gonna take time to get over your ex...it really is..."Rome Wasnt Built In A Day" BUT HEY CHICKY....IT WAS BUILT!!!! :), i know you'll get over him, its soo hard to get over people that you loved/love, the hardest part of holding on is lettting it go. but ya know, its time to do what you NEED to do and not what you WANT to do, thats what life is about, meet someone else, go out and put yourself out htere..not like slutty out htere..but let people know that your available, and that you need a really special person to come and "feed your emotional needs", and dont just fall for anyone, and dont fall for someone who's like your ex either, but seriously find someone that can help you keep your mind off of him hope all goes well keep ur chin up, stay strong and when life pulls u down plan to survive it! :)
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