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female
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30-35,
*illy27
writes:When me and my boyfriend started going out he was texting a girl everyday which i didnt know about. He used to text her everyday before he got with me anyway because they were good friends but he used to really like her and even asked her out before and she said no. big group of us went on a trip and he hung out with her for the whole thing instead of me. this the happened again like a month after on another trip. I tallked to him about it after this as i was getting jealous and he said he would stop talking to her etc except he was really texting her but was lying. We are two years now and this stuff has completly stopped but now it bothers me if he just talks to her because he lied about it so much. We fight over this all the time and it still bothers me after over a year! what should i do, should we break up? He says he just loves me but i still feel second best to her and i hate that i cant stand him talking to one of his friends now!
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (20 May 2010):
In your own words, "this stuff has completely stopped." But it still bothers you. "Should you break up with him?" Why, so you can go looking for a guy who's never had feelings for another woman, or has no deep bonds with any other females? No! You should think about why you are so jealous and so doubtful about whether you really make him happy. You should tell him that you want him to continue being friends with her, and even to deepen his friendship with her, and then work on getting over the feelings that produces within you. That is how to become a better person and how to strengthen your relationship with your man.
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