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writes:I am 14 years old. i have never really been in a serious realationship. but when i am with a guy they always want to do more than just kiss. when i say that ive never done anything they dont exactally believe me. not because they think im a slut but i have dated some assholes and they started some rumers. i think i am ready. not for sex. but you get where im going. anyway.... what should i do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Lol, first, and only answer for you, you are 14, and "you" want a serious relationship? That is like thinking "you" can turn water into wine, just deal with being single if you don't like guys who just wanna have sex, eventually (when you older) you might find someone to have an actual relationship with, but just deal with the single life for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): I'm kind of confused about what you're asking. Do you want to be in a serious relationship? If so, just be honest with your man! Don't lay everything on him on the first date, of course - but later on.
Once you are officially dating, let him know how you feel. But do it lightly: You could say something like, "you know, I've dated a lot of guys and it hasn't worked out. I'm looking for something with more committment now." You could even leave sex out of it entirely. It shouldn't be the centerpoint of a relationship anyway.
When the time is right, your guy should respect your decision to have sex (or not have sex) - if he's the right one for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): I'm kind of confused about what you're asking. Do you want to be in a serious relationship? If so, just be honest with your man! Don't lay everything on him on the first date, of course - but later on.
Once you are officially dating, let him know how you feel. But do it lightly: You could say something like, "you know, I've dated a lot of guys and it hasn't worked out. I'm looking for something with more committment now." You could even leave sex out of it entirely. It shouldn't be the centerpoint of a relationship anyway.
When the time is right, your guy should respect your decision to have sex (or not have sex) - if he's the right one for you!
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reader, firechiefpolice  +, writes (11 August 2009):
Don't do anything unless you feel comfortable. Sex and all things associated is nothign something you need to rush into. Take it from me, guys are horny! and will do almost anything for sexual favours.
You've said you've never been in a serious relationship and maybe you should wait till you are.
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