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writes:I am a guy in my twenties. I have problems with my father. He doesnt enjoy his life. He is manager in some firm. Just goes to work, come home and sleeps.And this is his daily routine. Whereas my personality is totally different. I like to enjoy as much as I work.But this habit of his doesnt let me enjoy my life as well. As I feel he is not enjoying his life that doesnt let me enjoy as well. When I say something he says dont tell me what I have to do. I have a habit of interacting joking and be light. He is not like that. Although he is a very nice person but I feel that he should enjoy his life.I think in his favour and he interprets it wrongly.What should I do.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Your remarks only compound the problems he feels. Being 53, I understand a lot more what my parents went through when I was growing up, being their responsibility for nurturing, feeding and proiding a roof over my head.
We all have problems, at work, with the spouse and with our children. Children don't have a clue about many things, and as parents, we try our best to explain them to our young. But many times, especially in the teens, our kids ignore what we say and comment "what do old folks know?" Plenty.
Your dad probably has many pressures, and feels everyone just unloads more on top of him. He fears complaining about it at work, for he might be fired and a young stud like yourself may take over his position. Why in this situation, because the boss knows your nieve, and will give it your all untill you burn out like your dad, then you to will be replaced. Relationship away from work are like this to. In the future, pay attention to what people say, do and ask for. You may recognize the traits and then understand why your dad is what he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): i'm in the same boat. my mother is exactly the same and i live with her and her attitude is totally negative. shes a widow and her life revolves around work and cleaning and now my dad isnt here and we are older shes bored. she has no hobbies and has never been interested in anything. but living with somebody who doesnt enjoy life and has no fun or laughter or hobbies is draining especially as they get older. what to do?
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