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writes:I am 19 (soon 20 in a month). I am in serious relationship with my bf for 2 yrs we were happy couple with ups and down in life, after graduation we wanna settle down, now the problem is his nature.He is caring when it comes to my health, looks and my security but ...............he is kind of mean and selfish he designs certain laws and rules for us but he never follows that ....saying I'm too immature and he has to take care of me.........next he spoke with two girls as friends in Facebook, then we patched up he promised that he would never create account in Facebook. ......but 10 days back he said he wanna create a new account. I said no, later on nov 29th I found that he created a new one a week ago. When I asked him, he spoke in teasing manner he didn't take my feelings seriously, he called me many times I didn't talk stillps:- what should I do now I wanna be with him, still he must change . I spoke to him many times.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 December 2013):
 you cannot make him be what you want.
you either have to accept him the way he is or leave.
those are your two options.
given the choice to stay and be emotionally disrespected and borderline abused I'd be leaving.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (2 December 2013):
He's made it clear that he's not going to change, so you can either accept who he is and stop having "talks" with him, or leave and find someone you're compatible with, because it's definitely not him.
Staying and continuing to complain about the way he is will only ruin your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2013): "what should I do now"
You have two options:
a) You can accept the reality that boyfriend is an insensitive, inconsiderate, controlling, lying, probably cheating scumbag while continuing to allow him to use you as a doormat
OR
b) You can accept the reality that boyfriend is an insensitive, inconsiderate, controlling, lying, probably cheating scumbag and muster up the self-respect, pride and dignity to walk away with head held high
"I wanna be with him, still he must change"
He won't.
"I spoke to him many times."
He hasn't listened and he never will.
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