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writes:I was in a relationship for 2 months then I cheated on my bf by making out with another guy one night. After that I broke up with him even though he did not want to. We remained friends and then a few months later we began to talk about giving us another shot. One night,(Tuesday) we discussed terms of our relationship even though we weren't wanting to be labeled as bf/gf yet. One was to remain monogamous. Later that week (Friday) he went out with his friends got drunk and ended up sleeping with a girl who has been after him for a while. And we had talked about her the night that we talked about terms. Well I heard from others first thing the next morning all about it. While he lied to me. I believed him and ended up telling him that I loved him for the first time on Saturday. Sunday night he finally tells me the truth. I forgave him because I love him but should I just move on? I believe what we have is special but my parents don't really like him and never have. Now I'm sure my friends don't like him either. We don't hardly ever fight. But I don't know when I'll ever be able to trust him again. And the sex...is amazing! Its like we can connect on another level not only physically but emotionally as well. I've never loved someone so much, but I've never been hurt so bad. Am I wrong for wanting to be with him? I have mixed feelings. I feel like for one thing we weren't together but he lied and will he do it again? I'd like to know your advice. Should I just drop him and move on? Or is it possible we can make it?
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reader, forgetmenot09  +, writes (24 July 2009):
well firstly you done it first and broke it off and maybe this was his way of letting you know what it feels like before you go monogamous, talk it through with him ask him why he done it etc but don't get upset or angry with his answers explain your feelings yes ask him does he think he will cheat on you again and ask yourself aswell if you will do it again, everybody deserves a second chance Right like he gave you! talk it over with him ask him does he think your relationship has a future be honest with yourself and him, if you love him the only thing you can do is try! By talking it over you both might realize that it is worth it or not but you need to know now instead of 6 years done the line when your wondering what if.please talk it over and listen to each other carefully. all the best x
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