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writes: Since school started after the summer, my girlfriend of nine months has been feeling distant. On IM she started giving short answers and stopped calling me. I knew she was having problems, but those problems had nothing to do with me, and it felt like I was paying for them.I'm always the one who initiates things (like holding hands, kissing, and all those things). I confronted her about being distant and not wanting to talk about anything, and we've been discussing a lot since that happened.I know it might have been a bad time to confront her, but she felt less interested every day. I don't know what to do, I feel like she just doesn't love me anymore.
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reader, Kimbo :)  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 Hey well really if your gf is being distant and is acting uninterested give her some space.. Just hope that things will get better let her be the initiater from now on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): I think you should talk to her about it, but I wouldn't be confrontational about it. If she is trying to distance herself from you, you barking at her will only allow her to push you further away. Find some time to meet, maybe in a place she likes(cafe, park) and express your concerns. Don't tell her "I feel like you don't love me anymore", but try saying that you feel like something is going on. Ask her if she is having some problems or if something is bothering her. Maybe the problem isn't you. You should make her feel comfortable. When she feels comfortable and that you are being attentive to her, she will tell you what is on her mind.
When you do try to express your concerns that she is not calling as much,ect.., should always try to say "we" or "i" and not "you". For example,"I feel like we are not communicating with each other", not "You are not communicating with me". Or "I would like us to spend more time together." That way she doen't have the opportunity to go on the defense, but she must tell you how she feels.
Also it is important that she makes you feel special. If you are making all the effort, what's in it for you? You should also think about what you want from a relationship. Maybe you feel neglected, because she doesn't make any effort. Maybe you feel like you love her, but if she doesn't make you feel good about yourself, maybe you are in love with the idea of her and not the true her.
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