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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, since we were in high school. Now we're both in our 3rd year of university, and I've found myself drifting away, or maybe growing out of the relationship. We took some time apart earlier this year as I had gotten involved in a lot of college social activities and he became jealous every time I had something to do or somewhere to go. Also I became attracted to one of my friends, whom I dated briefly during the break-up and found that it wouldn't work. When I got back together with my boyfriend we both really wanted it to work, and to make a bigger effort to not let small things get us down. We moved in together, but in the last 2 months the same thing has been happening as before, where I like to go out and get involved in clubs and societies and he just wants to stay at home. He can be very clingy and insecure, and so a few weeks ago while he was away with some friends I had a one night stand with a friend of a friend that was moving away. I didn't feel guilty afterwards, but then a few days ago I was at a college event without my boyfriend, and slept with the guy I was involved with a few months ago. I don't want to re-start a relationship with him, but it made me realise that while I have no problem having sex with other guys, I don't want to sleep with my boyfriend at all. I don't want to leave him, because I do love him a lot and I found it very hard being away from him when we broke up, but I feel like my behaviour is becoming so reckless that I'll end up causing serious damage. What will I do?
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reader, LadyK +, writes (16 October 2006):
I think you feel like he's there for you to lean on and can't imagine him not being there. You are a women who likes to try different things, mean while your tied down. Going with different guys behind your boyfriends back is called being unfaithful. You say you dont feel guilty after doing so. My advice to you is that, its time to move on, and be single and enjoy all the guy's around you. Your young and who knows you may bump into each other again some day....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): i think that you should break up. i know its hard, but wtf! you dont want to sleep with your bf at all? thats a clear sign that things arent good, and i think that keep going on with this relationship is no good for you or for him.
you also said that you didnt feel guilty after being with another guy, dont you think is proof enough to let you see that things are screwed up?
im sure that you two love each other, but you cant go on like this,
besides trust is the most important part of a relationship, and you're not being sincere with him.
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