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writes:Okay, here goes. MY sisters best friend died four months ago. Her husband left to care for four children on his home spent many a night drinkin and getting high. One night he invited me round and after that night he texted me often and I'd go a round his quite often he took an interest in me and we got together. We're together because I really like him but the other day realised this is wrong and thought hes only with me because he doesnt want to be alone and that it isn't fair on neither him nor me. So I ended it and he spent the night texting me telling me he didn't want it to be over etc. So I caved in and got back together with him two days ago. Like I said I really like him. He has said that he really likes me too and that I make him really happy and i'm the only good thing going on in his life etc.But today I found out when his wife died he went for my sister (his wifes best friend) before he went for me.I really need feedback on this...Tell me what you think please.
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reader, RNaunt  +, writes (26 October 2007):
Hi,
That doesn't seem like a very comfortable situation. I personally don't think that 4 months is nearly enough time for someone to mourn over the death of their wife, their partner, their best friend. I agree with the previous comment in that he should probably go through some grief counselling.
I doubt that he's trying to replace his wife. i do think that he does really like you, but I don't think this is the best time for it. If you two are meant to have something together and that it really is something awesome, then it iwll be worth waiting for when he's ready and when you know it's becuase he wants you for you.
Also, I dont know how good it is for his kids to see their mom 'replaced' so quickly...
Hope this helps, take care and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): This man has to be in pain, and though he needs friends it does not sound like a healthy situation for him or you. What he probably needs is a bit of grief counseling. What he has done does not mean he's a bad guy, but that he is in pain.
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