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writes:Hey, i really need advice,I met a guy online last february, met him and started dating, fell in love with him and all that, got engaged in july just gone, however he lost his job a couple of weeks ago and since then he's been stressed out about how to pay his bills etc i understand that i really do, we made plans to move out and have just been offered a house on our local council list, but since loosing his job he's done nothing but snap at me and we're arguing over little petty things, i feel like i'm loosing him, what can i do???
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reader, kairi3811  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Hello there. So it caught my attention because my fiance' and I met online, and pretty much everything is down to the tee. Aside from the losing his bit. However, the fighting has occurred a lot. It's not that your losing him, he is just stressed. He wouldn't stress this much if he didn't care about you. Roger (my fiance') just took 80 hours this week alone for work, so I don't get to see him at all really. And we fight because he gets stressed about work, and every time he tells me the same thing.. "I just don't want to lose my job, I want to make as much money as I can to keep a home for us".. Which in all honesty, it sounds like its the same case for your fiance'. He just cares and wants to make sure he keeps you happy. I would just recommend reassuring him that you love him and no matter what you will stay by his side. Just let the grumpiness roll off your shoulders. As I always say, we all get happy in the same panties we got upset in. (: I hope my little bit helped. And I do wish you the best of luck!
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reader, kari29 +, writes (19 June 2009):
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and i truly love him and he says he loves me. he graduated from high school this year and he has been working and we dont see each other as often.. he goes in at work at 5 n the morning and comes out at 5 or 6 after that he goes to soccer practice from 630 to 8 or 9 in the night. he get home and calls me and he is just quite and after like 10 min he says he is goin to sleep. on weekends he plays soccer both days saturday and sunday and i tell him that we dont really see each other and he is like oh well im busy i hate it because he doesnt have time for me PLS HELP ME I DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM.......
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 well in losing his job he has lost confidence and taken a blow to his ego - what with men feeling the need to be the breadwinner and that. just give him the emotional support he needs without making him feel like less of a success. he feels like he has failed right now - failed you aswell. just be patient, he will eventually gain more confidence as time goes on, and im sure wen you settle into a new home etc., things will start to look brighter to him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Try to give him moral and emotional support .Be more understanding and patient. Try to avoid contentious issues and picked up the slack if you can without criticizing him .
Losing his job can make him lose his confidence and self esteem.
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